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February 20th, 2013, 08:23 AM
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I'm not sure that it's entirely cut and dry as to whether (or whom) we would tell.

We have a few friends and family members that know what we're going through, so obviously they would know. There are others that we are hiding it from (for drama avoidance) so I doubt we would tell them after the fact either. (For example, a certain strict religious friend who believes that IVF is murder and adultery, therefore we are going to burn for eternity. But that's a story for another day.) If somebody asks, then we usually tell them. (I usually start with the response of "Having another child isn't as easy as just deciding to one day" to the constant questions. Some people drop it, others ask more.)

What we are struggling with is when/if to tell our kid(s) about it. DD obviously doesn't understand anything like that yet, but I think that when she's married and/or TTC I will let her know. Just so that she feels like she can talk to me about it if she has any issues. Also so that she's aware of potential issues. I don't want to scare her while she's young, you know? But I feel like if other people know about it, she and future child(ren) should know about it as well. Before they hear it from somebody else?

I'm picturing having "the talk" with her in a few years... "Mom, where do babies come from?" Well, you see, when a mommy and a daddy love each other very much, they go and see a doctor and take out a second mortgage on their home...
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Due with #2 after 5 years of TTCMA. FET #1 after IVF #2 and immune therapy was just the ticket apparently!
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