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April 11th, 2013, 12:30 PM
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We didn't tell anyone at first (when doing IUIs). We decided that since I'd be under anethesia for the ER, I should tell my mom. She started talking about the "other embryos" that would be left over and how they are people too. What would I do with them? After none of the IVFs worked & we moved on to considering DE, my psychologist and I decided I would talk to my mother about it. My mom equated the loss of my fertilty to when she had my brother and wished he was a girl so she had to give up the fantasy of having 3 little girls like she had planned! UMMMM...BIG DIFFERENCE! Right then and there, I decided that I was NEVER talking to her about any of this stuff again.

I am so sorry that they are being distant to you. Sometimes people don't know what to say and don't say what we need to hear at the time. It plain old sucks. I'm a firm believer that until you go through this process, you most likely can't understand the toll it takes! I'm sorry for your loss and your family's reaction!
Mandy (38 years old)

Mom of DD age 3
Due 2/1/18 with Baby #2
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