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May 8th, 2013, 05:09 PM
Seasaidh Seasaidh is offline
Join Date: Feb 2013
Location: CA
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I have no idea why people insist on creating these expectations. It's like you flipped a coin [however many] weeks ago and the decision was made at that moment (you have about that much control over what sex you have, whatever people tell you), but you don't know if it's heads or tails yet, and yet people are generating a mystery around it as though you could reach in and flip the coin to match their desires. What an unfair position for them to put you in!

Also creating this situation around something like a person is just so alien to me. It's an individual. It's going to be what it's going to be (this doesn't just apply to chromosomal sex) regardless of anyone's personal desires - why set yourself up to very possibly be disappointed (50% chance is huge) by getting attached either way to the idea of one or the other? Give the poor kid a chance to be what it is. ... and don't give the first thing you know about it the potential to be some kind of let-down, right?

Besides - gods forbid it ever gets back to your kids that you wanted something else when you got them. How terrible and sad.

(In other words, if you *do* end up having a gender preference or disappointment, definitely don't put it in writing, and CERTAINLY don't post it on the internet.)

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