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May 11th, 2013, 06:46 AM
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Location: Atlanta, Ga
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We thrive on routine, organization, and minimization.

I put more value on family time than one on one time. I believe our culture puts too much emphasis on individuality, individual attention, and so on. I believe loving the family as a unity and allowing natural relationships to evolve on their own is a great way to tend to the family. Each kid gets one and a half to two years of my undivided attention while I breastfeed them and stay up all night with them. I think it's good for my kids to be seen and tended to as a unit because it forces them to look outside themselves, to think of others, and to not be so self centered. That is part of why I wanted a bigger family. Even though I don't make an effort to have one on one time, I am sympathetic to my children. If they need privacy to talk about something, they get it. If I notice that someone needs some attention, I try to reevaluate how I've been doing things and might take someone out on a "date" as a reward for good behavior.
Previously known as ~~Que~~

Student Midwife, Doula, Placenta Specialist, and Lactation Counselor
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