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June 21st, 2013, 08:51 AM
mamatomany mamatomany is offline
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Join Date: Oct 2010
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Sadly, as several ladies who've visited this board lately can tell you, giving in to pressure to have an abortion can end in heartache and misery. If you want to keep this baby, him being supportive means only one thing -- he needs to support that decision 100%. If he manipulates you emotionally in any way, including giving you the 'silent treatment', it is not being supportive. If he honestly does want to be a part of your little son or daughter's life and you're happy with that, great, change your plans to fit with his accordingly. But if he really does just want to manipulate you into getting rid of your baby because it's 'inconvenient' for him, I say it's time for you to move on.

Obviously he doesn't want it to come out that he's been cheating on his girlfriend-- that is disrespectful to both you and her. But your child's life hangs in the balance -- it really has nothing to do with his convenience. You are the one who has to bear the emotional consequences of an abortion, and if you are not interested in that then please, please, don't let *anyone* try to convince you that it's what you have to do.

As the previous poster pointed out, these boards are a great support network, especially if you're having a hard time finding supportive friends at the moment. Join a due date club, which is a lot of fun and you'll meet many supportive ladies as well as some probably in your situation, all due the same time you are. I also encourage you not to stress about whether or not to give the a y up for adoption right now. You will have plenty of time to think through that, and trying to decide during a time of stress like this situation with your child's father is probably not a good idea. Give it a few months and reevaluate. Right nw it sounds like you want nothing more than to mother this little one yourself. If that's true, go for it! Don't let negativity or manipulation change your mind.

Best wishes, congratulations, and keep us posted!
Brooke, happy mama to one girl (9), and four boys (7, 5, 3, and 2) and a surprise post-vasectomy miracle baby born February 7.
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