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July 27th, 2013, 08:48 AM
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Melissa, we were in the same exact boat in March, but opposite. SIL and I were pregnant, due 2 days apart. I knew SIL was pregnant but she didn't know I was. I lost at 11 weeks. MIL told her about our loss right away. She never sent her condolences, never told us she was there for us or anything.

I think the best thing to do is be up front after a respectable period, but maybe in private. Ask her out for a coffee, just the two of you, and tell her where she can have some alone time afterwards. Tell her how sorry you are for her loss and how much you wish you both could have shared such a special time together.

Just my 2C but I really had a hard time with my SILs pregnancy this whole time. She's due in 7 weeks and honestly, I've been resentful. I'm glad you told her you were there for her, I think that will make a difference. I know I would have appreciated at least an acknowledgement from my SIL at some point.
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