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October 29th, 2013, 09:42 AM
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I think you are an amazing MIL for wanting to support her. It might be physically and emotionally too hard for her right now to even acknowledge that support. I'd maybe just send her a card or letter in the mail, letting her know that you are so sorry for her losses, that you are here for her if she wants a shoulder to cry on, someone to talk to, or just someone to help distract her.

There are times when I literally cannot handle even acknowledging the fact that I've had losses. I bury my head in the sand, ignore everything, and do anything to avoid remembering it all. Then there are times when I'm able to talk about it, to acknowledge all that has happened on our journey to parenthood..but it really depends on the day and hour. I'd just give her some space and time and just try to remember her on the big days- even sending her a sweet card around her EDD can be helpful in knowing that she isn't the only one who thinks of the losses.

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Me: 27, PCOS, ENDO, RPL, severe vitamin D defficiency
Him: 36, severe MFI post VR but counts climbing

2006-2015 7+ years of NTNP, TTC, TTCMA, Losses, Surgeries, and Diagnoses.
RPL and Genetic Tests came back 100% normal | Endo, PCOS, severe MFI
Multiple early losses between 3 and 8 weeks.

IVF referral in= 7/2017
RE Appt #1- 8/22/2017- doctor swears I don't have PCOS or RPL, go VEGAN to cure all
RE Appt #2- 8/24/2017- sono shows clear cysts, high afc, all bloodwork comes back PCOS typical

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