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February 27th, 2014, 01:13 PM
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Would you consider leaving your church if the pastor was not willing to take any constructive criticism? Yes. I think anyone in a position of leadership or authority, whether it be a pastor, teacher, doctor etc, who isn't willing to accept constructive critisism is lacking in humility and not in a good place to be offering guidance to anyone.
Would you consider leaving your church if you felt that your family would be worse off staying there as the people in the church have been slipping in their morality, modesty, and spirituality? Probably not if this were the only issue. No matter how "good" the leadership in the church is, the congregation is made up of individuals who have to make their own choices and moral judgements based on their personal relationship with God. It's not our place to judge them. When people are making poor choices, it's usually when they need a strong community of faith around them the most. However if these problems are primarily with the leadership of the church, not the church members, then I would wonder if it might be time to leave or encourage the leaders to move on until they were in a better position to lead.
Would you consider leaving your church if you didn't have another church to leave to? Yes. God can teach us a lot in a season of searching. It's good to meet Jesus in different places and different ways every now and then. I think it keeps faith from growing stale.
Would you consider leaving your church if your pastor says from the pulpit "those who have left our church their lives have ended in spiritual ruin?" (is this a threat or spiritual abuse?) This does sound like spiritual blackmail to me. Very scary stuff and I wouldn't want to be a part of a church who's leaders really believed this. Yes I would probably leave.

I feel I need to add to my answers here to clarify that having only a very limited understanding of what is really going on in this church based on what you have said so far, I don't want to pass judgement too quickly. There may be perfectly valid reasons for you to stay. Maybe you could be a light to those around you there. But it does sound like you are very uncomfortable there and wanting to leave. If you feel that your relationship with Jesus is suffering from being in this church then you should move on. But keep in mind that there are problems in every church. If you're looking for perfection from your pastor you aren't going to find it anywhere. If you are looking for a congregation that always upholds a strict moral standard you'll always be dissapointed.

I will be praying for you as you try to discern the direction Jesus wants you to take in this situation. I hope you can find a church where you feel you can trust the leaders and be supported by a loving and grace filled community. Please keep us updated.
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~Mother of Miracles

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