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marienbrian March 23rd, 2011 08:27 AM

Frustrated and Upset
Well I received an e-mail yesterday saying that our son climbed out of a window that was cracked in his foster home and escaped nearly a mile down the road to the neighbors house where the sheriff picked him up returning him to the foster family. I am beyond furious that this has happened and feel that is was neglect on the foster family's part as they know he is autistic and is a runner...that's how he came into care in the first place!!! Then, they get a call from the school saying for the past 6 weeks he was been screaming, crying and aggressive and uncontrollable. We haven't had a visit in the past 3 weeks but feel like the visits are really starting to confuse him. He needs to be moved into our home immediately or they are going to have him really messed up. We've finished our negotiation paper work and are just waiting to hear back. I can not wait until the mess is OVER! :(

future_adoption_mommy March 23rd, 2011 10:46 AM

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I'm sorry that you're having such a hard time! I hope that he's put into your care as soon as possible.

Just_Marie March 23rd, 2011 05:16 PM

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((hugs)) I hope he is with you soon

marienbrian March 24th, 2011 07:39 PM

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***update*** just got a call, he's moving in tomorrow!

SarahBethsMommy March 25th, 2011 01:30 PM

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YAY!! I just saw this! I guess he is either getting ready to or already has moved in! Congratulations! I'm so glad they decided to get on with it already. Let us know how it is going when you get a minute, momma.

marienbrian March 31st, 2011 10:08 AM

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Well the move in was a success! The only bad thing...we found out the foster dad was OD'ing him on a sedative and forgot to send a bottle of anti-psychotics he so desparately needed. Of course none of the social workers answered calls and I finally begged the pharmacists to let me have a few days worth for his sake. The social workers then tried to pin the blame on me to avoid being investigated themselves. Grrr... anyway he's doing better now that he's back on his regular meds!

SarahBethsMommy March 31st, 2011 11:41 AM

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Ugh, I'm sorry he didn't have the right medications. :( That is NO fun! How is he doing? Is he sleeping? How are YOU doing?

marienbrian April 6th, 2011 08:30 AM

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Sorry it took so long, it took us a bit to get adjusted here! He is back on schedule and routine and is sleeping LOTS. Which is wayyy better than 3 hours a day! He's learning to use utensils to eat, how to high 5, and learning the sign for EAT. He's really starting to thrive and soak up learning some new things :) Today we do our adoption placement paper work...Our worker and his workers will be here in about an hour and half!

mamma_anna April 6th, 2011 12:15 PM

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Glad to hear he's home with you and settling in so well.:) Good luck with the paperwork.

AlexKatieAiden Mommy April 6th, 2011 12:31 PM

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So glad to hear that he is finally home!!! It stinks that they were OD'ing him and didn't send his meds with, but so great that you now have everything worked out. Did you ever find a support group for families with children with autism in your area then? How did the meeting go?

~ Nicole ~ April 11th, 2011 02:28 PM

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Im happy to hear your son is coming back home. I have an autistic son too and I know how hard it is and how important stability is. Best wishes for you and your son.

SarahBethsMommy April 11th, 2011 07:08 PM

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Hey, I don't think I ever asked. When do you get to officially adopt him? Do you have to wait 6 months before applying? I think that is the rule here... the kids move in their home, but the official stuff must wait 6 months at least before getting started.

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