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Effervescence March 25th, 2010 07:55 PM

asking for "help"
Does your child ever ask you for help with anything? Does he or she sign it, or do you just know from other things that they do to let you know they need help?

hiskid1324 March 26th, 2010 08:00 AM

Re: asking for "help"
Nope. Trying to help her with anything leads to a tantrum, lol. She is SO independent. We even discovered that the tantrum she throws about getting into her car seat isn't about the fact she's getting strapped in, but the fact that we were actually placing her in the seat instead of letting her climb in from outside the car.

Effervescence March 26th, 2010 11:15 AM

Re: asking for "help"
haha, my sister was the same way! We still tease her about it when the family gets together and she's being stubborn about something, we say "Oh, I can do it my own self!" Because that is what she used to scream at my parents!

Jonah won't ask for help either, but I don't think it's because he's being stubborn about independence. I really think that the thought has never occurred to him that he could go to an adult for help with something. If he is playing with a toy and can't get it, he just throws the toy and moves to something else, or he cries.

This is actually one reason why I posted this question. We are trying to encourage him to turn to us for help, and I was looking for ideas. I thought I'd see what everyone else's LO is doing :D It is part of his/our speech therapy.

hiskid1324 March 27th, 2010 06:49 PM

Re: asking for "help"
I wonder if, since it sounds like he would actually LET you help him (as opposed to my strong willed independent little thing who definitely won't... the word 'help' is like the word 'no' with many kids-- it brings on the tears instantly, lol), if you were to take him by the hand to wherever the item landed, or go to him if he didn't throw it) and verbalize it for him with signs included... and try to catch it before he gets frustrated too. So like if you see him trying to do something and he's getting frustrated, go to him and suggest "Maybe Mommy can help you with that, say 'help please' so she will know." When YOU say 'help please' sign it for him, and then after you help him think it through, show him the signs with his hands in the order you want them used... I'm assuming he probably knows the sign for please...? :) And if you don't catch it ahead of time, then take him to the item, or go to him when he is upset and do similarly. I doubt it will be an instant change, but verbalizing it will probably help him start thinking it through. Anyway... just a thought. That sort of thing helped with my nephew and a couple of other kids I worked with who had speech delays, so maybe it would help Jonah too. :)

Effervescence March 27th, 2010 08:47 PM

Re: asking for "help"
yeah, that is basically what we are doing :)I guess there probably isn't really any other way to do it, I was just thinking that maybe I could find inspiration for other ways to work it into our daily routine

ItalySarah April 4th, 2010 11:42 AM

Re: asking for "help"
Bella gets frustrated and makes a noise and I usually sign "help" to show her to use it. Sometimes she will sign it back, other times she keeps making the noise. lol

hiskid1324 April 21st, 2010 07:47 PM

Re: asking for "help"
I just thought I'd update here, Rebecca's newest sign is.... HELP!! Yay! She finally figured out that sometimes it's okay to need some help with things, lol. She puts her two hands together almost like she's praying, and then raises them up in front of her face. :) Very sweet, and I'm sure hoping she's going to start asking for help without reminders to ask. :)

Effervescence April 23rd, 2010 08:33 PM

Re: asking for "help"
yay Rebecca! What a cute way to sign it! Hopefully it will help cut down on her stubborn-ness in accepting help. Maybe it will feel more like it's on her terms to her now, like she is actively seeking help, so it's okay hehe

hiskid1324 April 24th, 2010 08:12 PM

Re: asking for "help"
It's making SUCH a difference, especially when we can tell she's getting frustrated! If we notice her getting frustrated with something, we'll just ask her if she needs some help, and she'll think about it... if she decides she doesn't, she'll shake her head no (just started responding with nods/shakes to mean something recently), and if she decides she does, then she nods and signs 'help please'. :) It's solved a lot of issues in our lives in the past few days!

ItalySarah April 25th, 2010 01:20 PM

Re: asking for "help"
Bella is signing "help" now too! She smacks her hands together really hard but its not a clapping motion. She is using the palm of her hand to smack. Its so nice that she can do it. It has made things so much easier.

knightsgirl September 28th, 2010 12:45 PM

Re: asking for "help"
I know this is an older post, but I wanted to add my son's story.

Usually, when he is trying to do something and can't, I'll hear him start whining and getting upset. I'll ask him what's wrong (the first time I had no idea why he'd be upset), and he'll turn to me and sign "help". Most of the time he gets upset and asks for help it's because a toy is stuck (which was the case the first time I remember him asking for help).

Sometimes he'll randomly run up to me and ask for "help" and I'll ask him what he needs help with and he'll run off to show me ... today he wanted help getting a stick that is stuck underneath something heavy. The other day when he signed help at the playground, and when I asked him, he pointed to the slide. He wanted help going down the slide. =D

When we first learned the sign, I made sure to ask him "Do you need help?" and make the sign for help. Or when I'd be doing something (like making coffee), I'd ask him if he wanted to help and make the sign. He seemed to pick up on it fast. His version of help is one hand shaped like the E smacking into his open palm. But I know what he means and it makes me so proud to see him understand!

ninja_mommy September 28th, 2010 03:59 PM

Re: asking for "help"
What is an appropriate age for them to comprehend help?

PreciousBunz September 28th, 2010 08:33 PM

Re: asking for "help"
Yes, she asks for help and started very young because she learned the sign for it. I remember she couldn't talk much but I would hear from across the room, "help"..LOL

She does sign it, she likes to "help" mama clean, cook and make bread. She's 2, so we've got lots of opportunities to use it.

mama_aud26 May 21st, 2011 02:42 AM

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DD totally used the sign for "help"!! It was precious :) I loved it.

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