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Excited_mommy July 28th, 2013 05:03 PM

Tips for next time..
So I thought I was really set on breastfeeding till my baby was a year old. I heard that it would be hard but I didn't care I wanted to do it. That all changed when she got here. When she was born I caught on to nursing pretty quickly. The nurses helped me and after a couple tries I think we did great. She was a natural at it and I thought it was going to be that awesome bonding experience that mothers go on and on about. But then I went home. When I got home nursing changed for me. She wanted to nurse every 30 minutes it seemed like. I felt like it was pointless to even put on a bra. I wasn't comfortable at all nursing in public and so I never left the house. I sat on the couch all day crying because I could do anything it seemed like but sit and nurse. I went into a depression state. I hated breastfeeding and it made me hate everything else. I LOVED being a mother. But I hated all else. Everyone I know who nurses thinks its easy and amazing. I wanted that so bad. But after realizing that I needed to get healthy mentally and emotionally in order to mother my daughter i stopped nursing and started her on formula at 3 months. I am much happier now and enjoy every second of her but I know that when I get pregnant again I really really really want to have a better nursing experience.
Any advice/tips would be helpful. I just wish that I had gotten it right the first time.

mgm78 July 29th, 2013 04:11 AM

Re: Tips for next time..
well, my DD nursed round the clock, 24/7 in those first weeks/months as well. It is normal newborn behavior. I would try to find a baby carrier or wrap that you can comfortably nurse in, so you can be nursing her as much as she wants/on demand and be hands free. It will make you feel less tied down and will be discreet.

ThaiSpice July 29th, 2013 09:15 AM

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Hugs! I'm sorry that it was not the experience you hoped it would be. I would personally say that the first few weeks of nursing are not easy. I didn't have a major problem/complication either time in the early weeks, but both of them nursed a LOT. Grace would stay latched on for 45 min to an hour, and I'd get maybe a 30 min break and she'd do it again. Anna still, at nearly 16 weeks, nurses every hour if we're at home. And during the growth spurts (3 weeks and 6 weeks, especially), it was rough. They'd nurse pretty much around the clock, every 30 minutes or so. I'd say, though, it did get easier around 6 weeks. And both times, by the time I returned to work at 12 weeks, things were much better.

Even though nursing is a natural thing, it is not necessarily an EASY thing, especially in the beginning. I agree that finding a carrier that allows you to nurse hands free and still be able to move around the house might be helpful. Also, maybe finding a breastfeeding support group, like La Leche League, in your area. I'd say it's worth giving it a shot with #2, and take it one step at a time. And you're right...your sanity is vitally important, so if it's something that makes it difficult to cope, it's not the end of the world to acknowledge that and move on. :grouphug:

ZoeChloeMommy July 29th, 2013 10:51 AM

I have wondered the same thing. I felt like all I did was nurse 24/7. Now, DD is 20 months and sometimes it still feels like that. She won't sleep without nursing. I've questioned the thought behind not giving a pacifier. I wonder what would be different if she had taken one & if I'll give baby #2 one.

ThaiSpice July 29th, 2013 11:07 AM

Re: Tips for next time..
^ Both of my girls have used pacis, pretty much from birth, and it had no negative impact on breastfeeding.

ZoeChloeMommy July 29th, 2013 10:32 PM


Originally Posted by ThaiSpice (Post 27549238)
^ Both of my girls have used pacis, pretty much from birth, and it had no negative impact on breastfeeding.

This is good to know! Thank you!

mgm78 July 30th, 2013 04:52 AM

Re: Tips for next time..
my DD would not take a pacifier, i tried every one on the market. Though she has a few friends that are 4 and still use them, so i am not too upset that we did not have to go thru that part of the pacifier :D

juleeannk July 31st, 2013 06:59 AM

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I would suggest having a lot of support. Find a really good Lactation Consultant and breastfeeding support group. Take a breastfeeding class so you know what to expect and what is normal for breastfeeding at each stage. I also agree with the baby carrier or wrap.

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