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January 23rd, 2006, 05:54 PM
Join Date: Dec 2005
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Well, it's been two months since I've, you know....done it. (I'm so sexually UNactive that I have trouble even saying the word...lol). I don't know what's wrong with me! Honestly, the urge is definately there....DEFINATELY there...but always at the most wrong times! When my b/f and I are together, it's the very last thing on my mind, even when he starts to get all "worked up" while massaging my back. I only seem to get the "feeling" when I'm either alone, or what seems to be happening most often, when I'm either at work or visiting at someone's house or somewhere where's it's just not even close to being appropriate!!!! I don't know how many cold showers I've had to take from being in the mood, at home, but no b/f around!
Is this just meaning I'm unattracted to my b/f deep down?? I just can't see that being so. I find him so incredibly good looking, his eyes are to die for, and he's got this nice deep voice....drooooool.....Anyways, I just wish I knew why nature wasn't letting us both get in the mood together, let alone just me at least while he's around and the time is right cuz at this point, I could get him in the mood whenever!

I don't know,...Does anyone else have this problem? Or does anyone have any advice?

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January 23rd, 2006, 07:07 PM
NCMomma2BE's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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I'm having the exact same issues with DF. It always seems to be when DF is at work I want it sooo bad, then he comes home and I'm too tired or achey or whatever it happens to be that day. Initially I think it stemmed from the fact that I was worried what we were going to do post baby, when we can't get to it for at least 6 weeks. So I thought maybe if we space it out a little more than we will get used to it. Either way I feel really bad for DF because he has been so patient but I know it's killing him deep down. I wouldn't worry too much about not being attracted to your BF. With all the hormones going nuts in your body your sex drive is bound to change. I know for me it bounces back and forth. A few weeks ago, I wanted it so much that we were doing it twice a day, now he's lucky if we do it twice a week. Well that's probably TMI but you asked lol. I just wanted to let you know that you're not alone and most likely it will pass. If not you could always talk to your doctor about it. Good luck! By the way, I LOVE the shirt you're wearing in that pic on the left in your signature! Where did you get it???

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January 23rd, 2006, 07:41 PM
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To tell you the truth, I have no idea where I got that shirt...My b/f got it for me for Christmas. hehe..
I'm actually quite proud that so far I've made it withougt having to go buy maternity shirts. Only two pairs of maternity pants and 1 dress (that I couldn't resist). I just got myself some of those long shirts that they sell in the clothing stores now. Thank god that's in style now!!!! It makes it so much easier for pregnant women who don't want to be wearing the crap they sell in maternity stores (is it just me, or do they only either sell professional clothes or track suits in those darn mat stores???).
Thanks for the compliment though... I actually needed that today. I was looking at myself in the mirror about an hour ago before my bath and was so upset! I kept thinking "omg! my belly is egg shaped!! ew"
lol just those "wonderful" moments women have during pregnancy I guess.

Thanks so much for the reply too...Makes me feel a little better knowing I'm not alone!!!

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January 23rd, 2006, 09:10 PM
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I'm having that problem, only it's my DF who doesn't want any. He says that he doesn't like the belly, and so his sex drive has gone down. I HATE IT, because I'm always horny. *cries*
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January 24th, 2006, 08:49 AM
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Don't worry hun! You may just be worried or freaked out about your baby "being there"!!! Just remember that now is the best time to get down! You don't have to worry about bc at all (hahaha)! And your bf is probably even more attracted to you since you're carrying his child.

It's obvious you're still attracted to him so let your guard down and have some fun before you're too big and can't!!!
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January 24th, 2006, 01:37 PM
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Well, maybe after our date this week, the feeling will happen at the right time. He's taking me out for a fancy night out sometime this week so that I can get all dressed up. I'm pretty excited! I haven't gone out with him on a date in sooooo long!!!

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January 24th, 2006, 03:57 PM
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i cant have sex due to my placental lakes.....but there was a point where we could...and my b/f didnt want to because he didnt want to hurt the baby...go figure...im dying for some its been like 5 months!

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Hunter Evan 7/29/2010 9 lbs 1 oz 20 1/2 inches
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