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August 18th, 2009, 01:09 AM
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I recently had a one night stand with my boss. Obviously, it was a huge mistake. However, what's done is done. Upon being two weeks late, I took a pregnancy test. Positive. I have no idea what to do from here. Both of us would probably lose our jobs if I came forward with anything. I personally know his gf and their son. This is the biggest mess ever. Any advice?
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August 18th, 2009, 07:10 AM
ThatGirl's Avatar Rawr.
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Do you want to keep the baby? If so I would say that you'll probably need to tell him about it. He will need to pay child support and be a father if he is willing. You could raise the little bub on your own but I would still say that he needs to know. It's not the biggest mess ever, you can and will get through this. It always seems worse in the midst of it.

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August 18th, 2009, 01:32 PM
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I don't really have much advice to offer, but I wish you the best of luck. We all have done things in the past we're not proud of, but you're human. No one's perfect. Hopefully you'll be able to come up with the best solution for yourself. Do you want to keep the baby? I would think long and hard about it. Only you can decide. I'd still tell your boss, but he can't control you. Just hopefully he'll support you on whatever you decide to do.
Just take care of yourself. Your workplace doesn't have to know what goes on in your personal life.

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August 18th, 2009, 02:25 PM
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I know that feeling! Never thought I would find myself in the spot of being pregnant and wondering what I was going to do. I originally was going to make the choice to terminate because my SO did not want this. After LOTS of soul searching I decided that if I terminated I would have to live with that forever and I made the choice to keep this baby. I wont lie, it has been very difficult, I only have one good friend who supports my decision and I have my family but there are many people who constantly tell me it was a stupid decision including the father of this child.
At the end of the day you need to follow your heart and the rest will be stuff you can work around. If you choose to terminate make sure it is YOUR choice and not something you are bullied into doing!!

Best of luck to you in your difficult situation.
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