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March 6th, 2010, 05:14 PM
Libby22's Avatar Super Moderator
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I have 7 guys that could be the dad, should I tell them all. I so need help girls
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March 6th, 2010, 07:57 PM
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I don't know if you should tell all 7 guys if you are pregnant or not. That is a decision you need to make but I do think who ever you decide to tell, you need to be honest with them. I wouldn't tell a guy you are pregnant and that he is the father if their are other possibilities. I do hope after baby is born you decide to pursue genetic testing to figure out who the father is so you will know his family history and stuff and so you will be able to tell your child when he/she is old enough. Thats a tough situation to be in, I'm sorry. Is their any way to narrow down the 7 at all, like maybe based on date of conception so you could figure who most likely is the father and go from their? Just whatever you do, I think you should be honest. I mean, you don't have to tell the guy their are 6 other possibilities but he should know their is a chance the baby isn't his. Sorry I couldn't be more help...this is a tough one. Good luck hun!!!
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March 6th, 2010, 08:19 PM
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i agree with PP. from the ultrasound, your doc should be able to get a pretty good idea within a couple of days of when the baby was conceived. see if you can narrow it down a bit and go from there, if possible. that sounds like a real tough spot to be in, i wish i could be more help to you...
please keep us updated and good luck
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March 7th, 2010, 02:29 AM
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i agree, even if you slept with 7 men in one month your doc can narrow it down to the most probable days that you conceived and that should help
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March 7th, 2010, 07:18 AM
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Originally Posted by Irish_Wristwatch View Post
i agree, even if you slept with 7 men in one month your doc can narrow it down to the most probable days that you conceived and that should help

i agree with Irish- try to narrow it down, at least some. then decide who to tell from there.

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March 7th, 2010, 11:46 PM
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I agree with all the other ladies.
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March 14th, 2010, 10:05 PM
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ditto to the other ladies
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March 17th, 2010, 09:03 AM
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I would be open and honest and go from there. You dr should be able to help you and I have even heard you can do a paternity test inutro, but I could be wrong.

(((HUGS)))) know that you are not alone and that we are here for you. Keep you up head up and hang in there!

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March 17th, 2010, 04:45 PM
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I agree with a pp in that probably all 7 men need to know, but do not need to know that there are 6 other possibilities. You could just say 'There is a chance you are not the father' - he doesn't need to know it's a 1 in 7 chance he's not - it just means that each guy will know that he could be the dad and that he'll need to take a DNA test at some point.
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