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March 8th, 2010, 08:02 PM
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Okay..keep up if you can..

I'm currently 8 months pregnant, and my due date is April 21st. I'm pretty sure the father of my child is my boyfriend of 4 years..but just to make sure I'm thinking clearly..

During a difficult time in our relationship..I foolishly cheated on my boyfriend with a loser (ugh..) which fell on the 7th of July in 2009..After that mess..I had a period on the 14th until the 16 or the 17th..after that..I was with my boyfriend (OF JULY)the 21st, the 26th, the 30th and the 2nd of August (I know, right?..)..my boyfriend doesn't know of my mistake but he's kinda iffy about the child's paternity. His reason is (as dumb as it sounds..): "We've been trying for 3 years..and you didn't get pregnant until you started going out and stuff."..Which I kinda do take into consideration..because I haven't gotten pregnant UNTIL I cheated..BUT..the dates all point toward my boyfriend..I'm just confused..a little advice???
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March 8th, 2010, 08:36 PM
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from the dates your mentioned definately your boyfriends if you go to anysite where you enter your last menstrual period it says as follows
Today is Monday March 8th 2010.
You conceived on Tuesday July 28th 2009
and your due date is Tuesday April 20th 2010.

223 days have passed since the conception,
and you are 43 days before your due date.

You are 33 weeks into your pregnancy,
and you have 7 weeks to go.
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March 8th, 2010, 08:49 PM
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I agree, i think its your boyfriends. If you want even more reassurance, at your next pre-natal check up ask your OB what your date of conception was (although im sure it would coincide with the pp).
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March 8th, 2010, 10:46 PM
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Probably is your boyfriends unless that period you had on the 14th was light or unusual. Is it usually only 2-3 days? I think you're a-ok.
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March 9th, 2010, 07:55 AM
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The period that came on the 14th was earlier than usual..it usually came in the 19 or 20th..and I'm sure that was a period because I had cramps, headache, fatigue..but after I found out I was pregnant in August..I had light spotting..so I'm sure what happened on the 14 was a period..
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March 9th, 2010, 08:07 AM
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sounds like its your boyfriends..
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March 9th, 2010, 08:16 AM
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With my opinion on the dates cause I actually concieved the same month and was due April 9th but lost the baby is it is your boyfriends....

If your due April 21st you conceived July 27th which is the day after you dtd with your boyfriend so that would mean it was his.. If you had gotten pregnant when you fooled around with the other guy your due date would be in March.. Good luck hun..
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March 9th, 2010, 09:34 AM
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Thanx everyone..I feel so much better!!
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March 12th, 2010, 12:13 PM
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Your boyfriend seems like the obivous potential.
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March 13th, 2010, 03:38 PM
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Popping in from the April DDC, mine was also an unplanned pregnancy but I can't wait to meet him!! I am due on the 4th of April and my conception date was around the 12th of July, from the dates you gave I would say that it is definitely looking like your BF's!
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March 13th, 2010, 09:50 PM
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What a tough situation The dates definitely point to your BF. My son was due March 31, 2009 and was conceived on July 8th. This time last year I was 9 months pregnant and just a couple weeks from having my son. Seeing as you are 8 months pregnant I would think you definitely got pregnant at the end of July or beginning of August. If you are worried, go get a paternity test to ease your mind.

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March 14th, 2010, 10:13 PM
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congrats on the pregnancy! and ditto to the other moms.

I have 2 kids born on April 9th but they are 2 yrs apart
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March 15th, 2010, 01:46 AM
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does anyone know how and how much a test costs?
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March 24th, 2010, 08:11 AM
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I agree... sounds like it's your boyfriends.. best of luck!
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