Log In Sign Up

dh is not happy

Forum: Unplanned Pregnancy


Welcome to the JustMommies Message Boards.

We pride ourselves on having the friendliest and most welcoming forums for moms and moms to be! Please take a moment and register for free so you can be a part of our growing community of mothers. If you have any problems registering please drop an email to [email protected].

Our community is moderated by our moderation team so you won't see spam or offensive messages posted on our forums. Each of our message boards is hosted by JustMommies hosts, whose names are listed at the top each board. We hope you find our message boards friendly, helpful, and fun to be on!

Reply Post New Topic
  Subscribe To Unplanned Pregnancy LinkBack Topic Tools Search this Topic Display Modes
March 22nd, 2010, 08:39 PM
soontobemommyof4's Avatar Super Mommy
Join Date: Mar 2010
Posts: 707
I'm so sad right now. I wasn't going to tell dh that we were expecting another baby until he returned from his trip on friday but he asked me on the phone tonight if my monthly friend ever showed. And, I just couldn't lie to him about it.

He doesn't think we can handle it. A 4th child. He is afraid that we could have another special needs child. I was just starting to get excited and now I don't know what to think. I really believe that every baby is a blessing but are we being responsible. What is worse?

I hate that he took it so hard and it is making him so stressed. He made alot of sense, but I just can't get an abortion. I don't beleive in it. I wish this was a bad dream. I wish I could bed sure that this baby is healthy and nothing is wrong with him or her.

I don't know what to do or what to think.
Mommy to Connor, Cooper & Brady
Wife to Kevin of 9 years

Make a pregnancy ticker

Reply With Quote
March 22nd, 2010, 09:06 PM
Mega Super Mommy
Join Date: May 2009
Location: southern cali
Posts: 3,549
dear kim:

i am a grandma who was in different circumstances many years ago but still could not afford another baby. i did not believe in abortion (still don't) and was very conflicted in what to do. thankfully for me, i chose life. if you feel strongly about it, then stick to your guns about not aborting it. maybe adoption could be an answer for you. and lastly, after the shock has worn off, he may get excited about it.

as far as having another special needs child, since you didn't specify what the 'special need' is, you should see a dr asap and see what the chances are. whatever you do, i wish you well in your journey.
what goes around, comes around.....
speak with kindness....

Reply With Quote
March 23rd, 2010, 04:05 AM
soontobemommyof4's Avatar Super Mommy
Join Date: Mar 2010
Posts: 707
Thank you for your note. I think it will be OK. Dh is out of town this week taking care of his ill mother, but late last night he sent me a note and said he loved me and that he was just shocked was all. He needed some time to digest this new info, and that it wasn't a bad thing.
Our special needs son is autistic. I think we are going to do the extra testing to prepare and/or ease our minds.

Thanks again for your note.
Mommy to Connor, Cooper & Brady
Wife to Kevin of 9 years

Make a pregnancy ticker

Reply With Quote
March 24th, 2010, 11:55 AM
MeganLaRue's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
Join Date: Jun 2007
Location: Denham Springs, LA
Posts: 4,224
Send a message via AIM to MeganLaRue Send a message via Yahoo to MeganLaRue
i want to wish you the best of luck.
My oldest son has a genetic disability, so I too understandthe very scary thought of not only the unexpected pregnancy, but the possible disability as well...
I'm glad that he seems to be more ok about it now.
Megan LaRue

Thanks vicki for my perfect siggie!!!
Reply With Quote
March 24th, 2010, 08:56 PM
Jodi Dawn's Avatar Host of the Jan-July 05 P
Join Date: Jul 2007
Location: Pennsylvania
Posts: 25,747
Send a message via Yahoo to Jodi Dawn
hugs. I am glad to hear that it was just the shock talking. best of luck
Reply With Quote
March 25th, 2010, 06:15 AM
mommy2Breana+Brandon's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
Join Date: Dec 2006
Location: PA
Posts: 39,401
Glad he turned around and it was just shock. I hope everything turns out good for you.

Good Luck

Do you love food, entertaining, cooking?!?! Then you will LOVE Tastefully Simple. www.tastefullysimple.com/web/cpisch

Reply With Quote
March 25th, 2010, 01:13 PM
Loving6's Avatar Formerly Loving4
Join Date: Nov 2008
Location: Missouri
Posts: 12,369
His heart will warm up,just give him time.Sounds like he's beginning to warm up...best wishes

Mom to Dustin Jr, Jarren, Nathan, Alivia, Ava, & Ariea

Reply With Quote
April 2nd, 2010, 11:08 AM
Posts: n/a
It's so scary when the one who is suppose to be in it with you isn't on the same page at first, but DF was just like your hubby, he was scared etc and abortion was his first thought after the paranoia set in. I am glad hubby came around like my DF!
Reply With Quote

Topic Tools Search this Topic
Search this Topic:

Advanced Search
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off

All times are GMT -7. The time now is 06:00 AM.

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.9
Copyright ©2000 - 2017, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
Search Engine Optimization by vBSEO 3.6.0