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November 19th, 2010, 01:05 PM
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I posted this on one of the other threads too, but I thought I'd ask here too.

Please, no bashing. My husband and I have an open relationship, so I have a boyfriend on the side. One afternoon I messed around a little with my bf. He played with himself until he was hard. I don't remember seeing any precum or any fluid at all. He did put his fingers inside of me after playing with himself, but he touched clothing and other things before doing so. We did not have sex. He did orgasm sitting next to me, but never touched me again after that and I did not come into contact with any body fluids. I took a fertility test that day and it was negative. Later that night my husband and I had sex and did not use protection and he ejaculated inside of me. I did not realize I was ovulating because it was really late in my cycle and my temps have been wacky. According to my temps that week, I ovulated the day after or two days after the encounter w/ my bf and husband. I did end up getting pregnant that week and I'm now 7 weeks along. Everything I have read says that there is no semen in precum unless a recent ejaculation happened, which it did not. My husband is the only person I had actual sex with and was definetly exposed to semen. I am just looking for some reassurance that it most likely is my husbands baby. I don't want to worry myself sick for the next 8 months! I have ended the side relationship, in case you are wondering. Thanks! Again, please no bashing.
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November 19th, 2010, 02:52 PM
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It more than likely is
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November 19th, 2010, 08:30 PM
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To become pregnant, the sperm has to be inside the vagina, it can't survive very long exposed to the air. Sounds to me like it is your husbands baby. I wouldn't fret or worry, things sound good.
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November 20th, 2010, 09:40 AM
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I agree with the above poster, sperm cannot live long after being exposed to air - so you should be fine GL, & feel free to come back here if you ever need advice or just to chat - we're judgment free here !
beckii ... momma to my beautiful princess Mikayla Lynn 01.18.06
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November 20th, 2010, 08:21 PM
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yes i agree, this is probably most like 99.9% your husband's baby.. I think the chances of becoming pregnant from the bf are very, very slim, if at all. Like the previous poster said, sperm dies pretty quickly in open environment.

don't worry enjoy your pregnancy!
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November 21st, 2010, 01:35 PM
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I agree I would say its your hubbys

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November 27th, 2010, 01:00 PM
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Thanks ladies! I'm still worrying myself sick though. I've been scouring the internet for info on precum and there seems to be conflicting info, however it seems the likelyhood is zero.
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November 27th, 2010, 01:25 PM
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I can't imagine you getting pregnant from just that..it has to be your hubbies. Have you told your husband about it? Or is it a don't ask don't tell kind of an open relationship?
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November 28th, 2010, 09:23 AM
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MommyMonk, yes my husband knows. He knew I was meeting up with the bf that day and was fine with it. But when I found out I was pregnant, then he started questioning me about things that happened spacifically, otherwise he didn't want to know. Now I'm driving myself insane thinking back on that day and trying to remember exactly what happened, and if there was any fluid transfer. I'm making him crazy from bringing it up to him all the time too. The next 7 months are going to be soooo hard. But as long as you guys feel confident it would be my husbands, that does make me feel better. The senario I described is exactly what happened.
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November 28th, 2010, 10:00 AM
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Im glad you are feeling more confident. I say try to relax even though I know its easier said then done, and enjoy the pregnancy!

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November 28th, 2010, 10:06 AM
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Well, no, I'm not feeling more confident. I can't get it out of my head at all. But it does make me feel better when someone says it doesn't seem likely to be the bf's baby. I have a dr. appointment next week and I'm debating on asking my dr. about this. I'll really feel stupid, but it might help me put my mind at ease more.
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