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May 24th, 2012, 04:40 PM
Mega Super Mommy
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Hi girls..I don't post much here but have been lurking for some time..at the end of january I found out I was pregnant when I had pre-op labs done for my tubal ligation..I really didnt want any more children(I just had a baby in sept)..At first I really considered abortion but in the end I couldnt do it and I honestly don't think I have the heart to put this baby up for adoption..Ive accepted that Im going to have a 4th child and started getting excited..well..I am just over 23 weeks and still have not told anyone..Its getting hard to hide this bump but honestly Im petrified of my families reaction..I have 3 children already and am having a hard time making ends meet..I never wanted a 4th child but Im not going to let that interfere with the parent I know I am be..How do I tell ppl that have no idea and may not be supportive of the idea that I am having this baby?

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May 25th, 2012, 09:00 AM
magz88's Avatar First Time Mum
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They will find out when you start to show so just be direct with everyone. They will react how they react. You cannot control that only how your interpret and process their reactions.
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May 25th, 2012, 06:29 PM
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Hello! I am married with 2 children, 14 and 6. We just found out that we are pregnant with baby #3. This baby is 100% unplanned. We were totally done having kids. I was just getting back to work and our home really dosen't fit another child. We are due in January. I am in the same situation as you. I know my family will be very judgemental about this, not so much my husband's family but my family for sure. They will tell us we are crazy and insult us, I know them. The best is I was on birth control and only went off it because I was getting sick and thought being on BC for many many years could have inpacted that. We were careful but we all know we have those "accidents". That being said, I am also scared to death to tell my family. I have told a few friends who were shocked but very happy for us. They gave me some good advice. They are not feeding us, supporting us or living with us. This is our choice and not theirs...our family, our child. Even if the baby isn't planned dosen't make anything change...just to be humble and let them think what they want.......I am happy you didn't choose abortion.......I hope things get better and keep me posted!!


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May 26th, 2012, 05:41 PM
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I too am in a similar situation. I am 13weeks pg with #7. Never intended to get pg again. Its almost embarrassing to admit. We havent really told anyone yet because I wasnt real happy about this pg and Im not ready to deal with people. People were really judgemental about my 4th baby. Now Im looking at 7. Its a little nuts. We are going to try to talk to our families but everyone else will know when I get too big to hide it.
Whatever. Its your own life and no one else knows how you feel and what your dealing with. Just take care of yourself and try not to let other people get to you
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May 26th, 2012, 10:48 PM
.:Kati:.'s Avatar kyler's mommy
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My sister was in a situation like you,she has 3 kids (15,14,11) she's expecting her 4th in September. I knew she was pregnant right when she tested but she waited to tell the family until 24 weeks.

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May 27th, 2012, 09:41 AM
Join Date: May 2012
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Hey ladies. Having children when we aren't prepared seems to be the hardest thing to do . I'm a single parent of 11 year old twin girls and I love them sooo **** much, but its hard. I recently missed my P. I'm actually 26dpo and 6 days late and scared, I don't have much family but today I woke up and i do'nt have any syptoms right now, bottom line ladies If we are taking care of our own families feeding,clothing etc... then why are we so worried with acceptance. I know its hard but at the end of the day no one can judge us.
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