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November 30th, 2012, 02:57 AM
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I have just found out I am pregnant for the 3rd time. My first pregnancy was when I was 18 and I knew straight away that I could have it. After my termination I regretted it deeply, so when I found out I was pregnant again I knew I was having him. My son is now 19 months and i couldn't be happier but am now stuck with another decision. My partner (the same through all three pregnancies) and I have always had a passionate relationship and made me realize we are not ready for another child but he has always supported my decisions.
Since I have already regretted my first termination I can not see myself doing that but also know I can not financially support another child. I also have just started studying again and entering a new career path so this could not have happened at a worse time.
If anyone has any advice or is in or has been in a similar position please help me out.
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November 30th, 2012, 07:14 AM
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I'm in the May DDC and was just browsing through other parts of JM...

Since you feel unprepared to have another child and don't want to terminate (understandably), I guess the obvious question is, what are your thoughts on adoption?

And to be clear... what exactly are your partner's feelings about having another child?
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December 1st, 2012, 07:25 PM
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I wouldn't know where to start with adoption. The thought of carrying a baby and making that connection then give them away, seems like a harder decision then my immediate decision. In saying that I do not personally know anyone that has been adopted or has adopted a child. I know of people who have whangai (unofficial adoption in my culture) where they have family raise their child. So I do not know the positives or negatives to going through that.
As for my partner, I know he would rather not go through with having this baby but has said it is totally up to me which does not help me make up my mind. I have a scan tomorrow to see how far along I am and I'm hoping this will make my decision easier.
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December 1st, 2012, 07:40 PM
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I would love to talk to you about Adoption. Please private message me and maybe we can talk. Adoption allows a family that want their own baby and cannot have one on their own to love and cherish your unborn baby. You would be blessing a family. Please private message me, I would love to talk to you.
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December 6th, 2012, 05:27 AM
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how do i do that?
private message you that is?
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December 6th, 2012, 08:59 AM
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Not sure how to private message. I would be happy for you to email me if you would like? Just let me know. Hope to hear from you soon.

My email is [email protected]. Would be happy to hear from you.
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December 10th, 2012, 08:54 AM
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Have you decided what to do? I will 100% support adoption, but know that there are many options. Have you considered extra income to keep your baby?
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