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September 28th, 2013, 07:54 PM
susie_q's Avatar Super Mommy
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Hi everyone. I found out about 2 hrs ago that I'm pregnant. Still typing that is weird. Not trying with my bf, even took plan b when he finished in, did what I thought was right.

He's at work and doesn't know yet. I'm terrified to say the least. I'm 30 and my bf is younger than me, so I feel like i'm gonna hold him back. We love each other dearly and had planned on marrying in the next year or two and I told him I wanted kids by 33 which he was very okay with.

But I don't feel ready. Does any of us? I don't know. I always hoped when I found out I'd be excited, not sitting in my empty bathtub crying. It's all overwhelming, I don't know what to think and I'm so so scared that when I tell my bf he's going to be crushed and hurt. More than that, my parents are super traditional and my father is going to be CRUSHED.

Anyways, thank you for listening and giving me a place to vent. Nice to know I'm not alone in the "oh crap, what the heck is this??" when looking at the test!
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September 28th, 2013, 09:36 PM
Wanta.number2's Avatar Hi, I'm Tiffani!
Join Date: Jan 2013
Location: Texas
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The baby I'm pregnant with now was very planned, but my first was not. It may take everyone a bit of time to adjust to something so unexpected, but in the end, watching you grow and the anticipation of a new son/daughter/grandchild etc, will trump how they will feel in the beginning.

It can be hard at first, but I believe things happen for a reason, and I can't imagine life without my son!
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September 28th, 2013, 10:10 PM
DeletedUser12345's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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You'll be great mama! I found out I was pregnant after a one time thing last year. December 4th I tested and was right where you are. I cried the first day and then freaked out til I bought all I needed for him.. But now he's here and even though I'm a single mom, my life has gotten so much more fulfilling and meaningful.. I was in labor my 25th birthday.. So I may not have been ready but life happens. A due date club here will be a great tool for you. And it sounds like your bf will be on board and thrilled, too.. Maybe just initial shock.

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September 29th, 2013, 02:51 PM
susie_q's Avatar Super Mommy
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He deeefinitely had the initial shock. Just kinda laid there and kept saying "i love you regardless but I'm not ready to have a baby yet." Peed on two sticks in one hour, so one was there and the second was faint. Making an appt in the morning to have everything checked out by a dr. I know they say plan b doesn't harm an existing pregnancy but I want to be sure.

Thank you so much for the comments ladies, it's nice to know I'm not alone!
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September 30th, 2013, 02:09 PM
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I wouldn't be worried. Many of us feel we aren't ready when it happens. I would definatly reccommend joining a DDC. the ladies are Great and helpful. i haven't foudn one bad person on here yet..

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September 30th, 2013, 06:20 PM
Spyctre's Avatar Arwen
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Just lurking. The baby I had just 5 days ago was very unplanned. I had a horrific pregnancy last time, and if I was able to choose between another child and never being pregnant again, we'd only have 2 kids! But she's here, and she's adorable and lovable. Kind of chaotic with her being the third. My last is only 19 months old, and she is still so needy. My first is 5 but might as well be considered a toddler since she has Autism. Life happens. It'll be OK.
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October 1st, 2013, 01:32 PM
susie_q's Avatar Super Mommy
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Thank you for the responses. It's sinking in more and because my hormonal mood swings are so unsteady, I go from super scared to crying to happy then back again. In the end, I know life doesn't follow our plans and that's okay and this will be okay, even if it means I'm doing it alone.

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October 2nd, 2013, 11:05 AM
ducksaresnazzy's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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my baby was quite unplanned. my parents had such high hopes for me and when i told them i was pregnant i know they gave up on all of them. i graduated high school at 16, would have been done with a 2yr degree by the time most kids are starting, and i got pregnant at 17 instead.

my mom has since come around but my dad is still distant about the baby. the sting wears off for you though, after awhile. you'll soon be too involved with your body and baby to be too concerned with what others think about your situation.
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October 2nd, 2013, 11:42 AM
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my first was unplanned the current pregnancy was planned it isnt easy but you will be able to get through it
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