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May 14th, 2005, 10:24 AM
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How did all of you tell the babys father (may it be husband, bf or whomever) that you were pregnant? I have to tell my boyfriend tomorrow and I am so scared!
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May 14th, 2005, 10:32 AM
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Well he hates for me to tell anyone but he has a varicose seal on his testicle (its varicose viens wrapped around his testicle). So he went to the Dr. for it. He came over the next day (I had taken the test the night before) and I asked how the appt went. He said "Oh it went ok, no problems. The Dr said I may have problems having children in the future if it gets worse". I said "I dont think you'll have much problems with that" It took him a minute to click and then his jaw dropped and went into the bathroom to check out the test.

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May 14th, 2005, 11:22 AM
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LoL that was cute, Tyler

I took my pregnancy test early in the morning when my bf was still asleep. When it came up positive, I went and shook him awake and said, "good morning daddy". He stared at me for a moment, then his eyes widened in shock. I guess I could've picked a better time, but darn it, I was scared too!!

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May 14th, 2005, 11:56 AM
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i had a pain in my stomach that had been bothering me for about 2 weeks. i really don't like going to the doctor and i was hoping that it would jsut go away. (i have alot of problems with my stomach so with all the test that they take i hate going to the doctor). anywho, i finally went in and it turned out that i had a bladder infection and that i was 6 weeks pregnant. i was in complete shock i had heard that i had a bladder infection but he had to repeat that i was pregnant. my boyfriend wasn't home when i got home from the doctor's office and i had fallen alseep. he found all the papers that they gave me for tests and stuff to take for morning sickness and he just knew what it was. he asked me when i woke up and i told him, i got a hug and that was it. we didn't tell anyone else about it really till i was farther along because i keep getting sick and we didn't want everyone to be worried. but we also hated our room mates and wanted to move so my parents found out when i was 3 months. i ahd to tell work a little sooner because i was really sick and needed to have my shift changed since i was working the grave yards and couldn't do it any more. i guess everything just kind of fell into place.
good luck telling your boyfriend about your pregnancy. you are going to have to let us know how it went.
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May 15th, 2005, 01:27 PM
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We found out at the same time... I was at the doctor for a follow-up appt after an ultrasound to detect a cyst on my ovary... I'd had a strange period 2 weeks before and wasn't pregnant then, so they did the ultrasound and sure enough, there was a cyst. SO, they made me come back the next day, because they wanted to make sure nothing else was wrong, because a cyst can also look like ectopic pregnancy. The next day the doc said, "Well, it's not ectopic but you ARE pregnant." So my fiance (BF at the time) was sitting right there with me!

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May 15th, 2005, 05:27 PM
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I had told my fiance (bf at the time) that I was late... I then bought a pregnancy test and shared the results with him. We were both really shocked at first (we even cried) but we couldn't be any more excited now!

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May 16th, 2005, 07:57 AM
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Gosh.. Well, wednesday came and I didn't have my period (I always start on a wednesday because I was on birth control, so I had it timed to a T). I said "No worries, if I don't get it tomorrow, then we'll start to worry." Thursday no period. Friday came and no period and I called him and said "I think I'm going to take a test"... So we went to the drug store to get the test together and then came home. He says "I have a bad feeling about this"... I said "Oh, hunnie, don't be silly." Sure enough, I took it and it was positive. He was there, as well as my mom, when I took the test and she told us. It was kinda weird and I think I was more freaked out then he was, but now I think I am happier and less nervous than he is! He's a wreck, but I'm sure it will fall into place when she gets here.

But, I hope that things go well w/ you telling your boyfriend!! Let us know how it works out!
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May 17th, 2005, 09:03 AM
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I was on b/c so my husband knew my cycles just about as well as I did lol I was close to a week late, but we just figured it was an irregular month or something, but we went out to buy a test, anyway. Took it, and it came up positive! lol I think we both just sat on the floor of the bathroom for a good 15 minutes trying to internalize that piece if information.
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May 18th, 2005, 09:48 AM
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I was on BC, but had run out, and my appointment for a pap and new RX wasn't for 3 more weeks. During those 3 weeks is when it happened.

I had been out of pills for a couple weeks and hadn't had a period so just to ease his mind I figured I would take a test and show him I wasn't pregnant. (He didn't want to have kids until he was 25---he's 23 next month).

Well, the test came up positive. I cried so hard because I was so afraid he was going to be mad at me. The first thing I did was call and say hi, and he could tell something was wrong with me. I didn't want to tell him while he was at work (since he drives for his job and didn't want to cause a wreck or anything). I told him nothing was wrong and we'd talk later.

Then I called his mom and talked to her about it. She was laughing at me in joy. She'd been bugging us for a grandbaby since almost a month after we got together. So she was excited to get what she wanted. She tried to comfort me and get me to calm down because I was torn to pieces.

Finally bf called her and asked if she knew what was wrong cause he was worried about me, she didn't tell him because I asked her not to, but she had him call em again, and I finally told him. He had kinda guesssed that was what I was going to say, but for the first day we were both quiet...a little distant, in shock trying to take in the info and absorb everything.

We're both very excited now and can't wait to meet our little Alex in person We're going to look at buying a house in the next couple of weeks so we'll have a room for the baby. I think both of us are very grateful that our little surprise has happened.

Good luck with sharing with your special guy.
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May 25th, 2005, 10:06 PM
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my fiance (bf then) and i found out the same time. we went together to the store to buy the test. and then we went out for breakfast cause we were both hungry. and then we went back home and i went in the bathroom and took the test while he played bejewled on my phone. so then i walked out of the bathroom and i said "WELL" really loud and he looked at me. and i was like "im pregnant" and he dropped the phone and ran over and gave me a huge hug. and he was like "why arent you crying??" and i was like "i think its because im not in shock. i knew it was gonna be pos." and then he went on to tell me its my decision what i want to do but he doesnt want to keep it. and he told me to think about it for a couple of days. and then i told him i want to keep it. and ever since then i think hes been more happy about having a baby than i am! its so cute. so thats my story.
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May 26th, 2005, 07:25 AM
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I went to the doctor for my annual pap and exam, my doctor asked me when my lmp was and i told her i had forgotten and actually as i thought about it, i realized i was late. my doctor wanted to do a pregnancy test and so i went to go pee in the cup, needless to say it was positive. Once I was done at the doctor's i got into my car to drive home and i started BALLING. i called dh (who was at work) and told him over the phone. I knew i should have just waited till he had gotten home, but i just couldn't wait. We stayed up that whole night talking about what we were going to do..... i'm glad it all worked out in the end!

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May 28th, 2005, 10:35 AM
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Oh gosh....my story is NOT a happy one.

My daughter;s bio father and I had broken up shortly before I found out. He had eevn moved to another state for a school/work program. So I had been out of touch with him for a few weeks.

So when I realized I was pregnant ( I dont rememer if I took a test or if I just knew because I was so late) but anyay i had NO way to contact him and he was not due back home until Dec and thats when my daughter ws due

I didnt want to just spring it on him so I reluctantly called his mom and told her my situation and to please have him call me.

so he called and was LIVID that I had told his mother. He said it wasnt his and blah blah and that I was on my own.


So I just internalized it and decided that I wasnt going to be pregnant anymore ( hey I was 16, lol it made sense to me) so I just hid my pregnancy until I was 7 months along. I was a cheerleader and I barely showed. I told my mom in October and had my DD December 7th.

AFTER I have her, her dad wants to come back to my state and play super dad, but I was still bitter towards him. He is now in the military and hardly ever around. I have since met and fallen madly in love with my fiance and maybe expecting our first child as we speak.

If I am preggy I'll be back next week to tell you guys how I told him, lol

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May 28th, 2005, 01:57 PM
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Wow, these are great stories even the ones who had a hard time. Mine is not so exciting. I'm private I guess when it comes to this. My bf is still mad he wasn't there when I took the pregnancy test. I was just so used to doing them on my own in the past because I guess most of the time I was scared. Anyways this time I ended up just calling him and telling him right after the test.
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May 29th, 2005, 11:34 AM
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i dont remember what i did with my daughter but this time i went to the doctor because i had been sick for like 2 weeks i was a week late with my period and was supposed to put my b/c back on the next day (i use the patch) so i asked thedoc to do a test while i was there needless to say it was pos. i asked the doc for the results on paper. i called my friend b/c i was scared b/f was going to be pissed (he doesnt want kids right now he thinks its the end of the world) friend told me to wait but i couldnt i called /f and woke him up when i was on my way home told him to get up and come with me i wanted to tell him while we were out b/c i thought he wouldnt be as crazy mad and i wanted to drive b/c thats what i do when i need to calm down. well he bugged me about what was going on and i just handed him th epaper whne i got home he said he had figured as much from the way i was tlkaing on the phone and told me it was my descision and wed do whatever i wanted so not what i expected but now hes changed his mind and im getting what i expected in the first place

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May 30th, 2005, 09:05 PM
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These are all so interesting. Here is what happened with me. My boyfriend and I had an idea that I could have been pregnant but we didn't know for sure. On May 9 (monday) I bought the cheap tests that have the 2 tests in them and when I took it it was negative. I called him at home and told him and he was really crushed. So then I decided I wasn't going to take anymore tests because it was dissappointing him. Well I had been feeling really different and I know my body so for some weird reason I decided to take the other test on May 12 (thursday). I waited a couple minutes and when I looked at it, it was negative. Then the next morning May 13 (friday), I went to throw the test at him and I said see another negative, he picked it up and said you better look at this again because it looks positive. Then I was like OMG what!? He's like honey we are going to have a baby and started jumping up and down on the bed. I was like wait when I looked at it, it was negative let me take another just to be sure. So then when I went to work I was crying and the one girl asked what was wrong, I took the test and showed her and explained to her what happen then adventually she was like if you don't go get another test I am going to go get one because the suspense is killing me. So finally I went to go get one and took it and had her read it and sure enough it was positive. Well I called my boyfriend and he was shopping in a grocery store ready to check out. He later told me he was jumping up and down like a little boy at the candy store and almost knocked the lady over that was behind him. We weren't going to tell anyone till I was 3 months well he couldn't even keep it in for 3 minutes till he told his sister in law!
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June 1st, 2005, 03:52 AM
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With my previous pregnancy - still the same boyfriend - I literally said to him:

"We need to talk - can i come over? "

and he just said: "Your pregnant"

He really made it easy for me.
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June 2nd, 2005, 11:07 PM
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Well my story is not a wonderful one but it is quite different from the rest of these. About three weeks before I found out I was pregnant my b/f and I had issues and thought it would be best to seperate for a little bit. In the mean time, I was upset and moody and quite sick and I was just thinking in my mind "it would be my luck after all this horrible stuff that I would be pregnant". Lucky ME!!! Anyhoo...I ended up writing my b/f a letter because I find it easy for me to tell people something through writing. The next day he came up to me and asked me if what I wrote him was true and I asked him why I would have a need to lie about this. Well that was my story on how I relayed the message to my baby daddy.

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June 3rd, 2005, 12:02 AM
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With my first pregnancy, I was living with my boyfriend, (now my husband). I was on the pill, but not very good at remembering to take them. Yeah...I know. Anyway, I was getting up at all hours to pee...my breasts felt like they were going to fall off they hurt sooooo bad....so I decided to do a pregnancy test. It was early in the morning.....and it was positive. I went ballistic, cursing and crying and yelling at my bf that this was all his fault...he had done this horrible thing to me...we were going to have to find some way to fix this "problem"! It was a really bad day. After adjusting to the idea for a few days, we decided to have the baby. He is now 7 yrs old, and one of the very best things that ever happened to me.
With my second, I took the test...it came up positive and I pulled my husband outside on the porch to tell him. I wasn't thrilled...I was sure one was more than enuff....but he was fine with it. My daughter is now 3 yrs old and proof that karma can be a real beeeoottccchhhh!!!
What can I say???? This time was DEFINATELY a surprise, but I decided to tell my husband in a more memorable way this time. I made a card that said "Oops..we've done it again" and on the inside is a pic of a stork with a baby in it's bunting and it says, "Ready or not, here I come!" I left it on top of his keys and wallet knowing he'd see it before he left for work....he came and woke me up and asked me how long I had known. This is the first time that he has really not been supportive. He is your typical male who can only think about money, money, money and video games. Pregnant wives.....yeah...just call him whenever it's time to go to the hospital.

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June 3rd, 2005, 09:12 AM
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The week I "knew" I was pregnant, dh went to Cali to visit some friends. Well, the morning after he came back, I took a test without him knowing. He wanted to take me out to breakfast before I had to go to work, and halfway there, he realized he forgot his pills *he is lactose intolerant big time* So we stopped at Giant and I said, I'll wait in the car, but we need to talk. I left the test on his car seat. When he came back to the car, he said he totally knew I was pregnant because the second he walked into Giant, there was a song playing, and it kept saying "baby baby baby baby baby" He was very excited...but terrified!
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