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May 25th, 2005, 05:38 PM
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I just recently found out I'm pregnant. I'm about 2 and a half weeks pregnant. I am a 20 year old female. My problem is that my family knows I'm pregnant too but don't think it would be right for me to have the baby and they wish for me to abort. I want to keep my baby but I don't know how to make them understand that. I'm pregnant by my current boyfriend which unfortunantly they do not like and wants to keep the baby as well. I don't want to feel presured by anyone to do anything else but they belive I'm to young for one. They don't think my boyfriend is good enough for anything and I dislike that they think that because we have already said to eachother that we will work through everything and make things work. I don't think anything should matter but to make things work. I'm feeling very confussed instead of happy because of what my family feels. Anyone have any advice on how to deal I would appreciate it greatly.

P.S. We did plan for our baby but I just thought I'd post here for extra advice...Thanks
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May 25th, 2005, 05:42 PM
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Welcome to JM! I was 20 when I got pregnant. I think the best way to calm your family down is to come up with a game plan. Write it down so they can see what you are going to do. How are you going to support the baby money wise? Insurance? Living situtation? School? Anything and everything you can think of. Good luck

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May 25th, 2005, 05:49 PM
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I totally agree with everything she said! I think the best way to approach your parents is to deal with it as mature as you can. Discuss with them your wishes and your wants, but also address their concerns, such as living situation, jobs, daycare, money, food, etc.

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May 26th, 2005, 08:00 AM
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Most importantly, make the decision that's right for YOU... Not for anyone else. Really think about what you want and how you're gonna make it work. It's scary at first to think about having a baby, but people do it every day...

Anyways, good luck and let us know how things turn out!
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May 26th, 2005, 12:13 PM
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Hi, I'm Nicole...I'm 22 and pregnant with #3. I got pregnant when I was 18 and there was never any doubt about me keeping the baby. You have to do what you want. Not what your family thinks is best. You should listen to them and their concerns, but explain yourself to them. Tell them how you feel about it. I don't think anyone is completely ready for their first child, no matter what age. But if you know you can do it, then do it for yourself, not them.
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May 26th, 2005, 12:21 PM
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Yes do what is right for you, not anybody else! this is your child your talking about, so do what YOU WANT...and good luck!!

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May 27th, 2005, 11:07 PM
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Thats good u wanna keep the baby, i am glad i didnt give my son up and i dont regrate any of it
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