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December 29th, 2006, 06:53 AM
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I need some advice. Im pretty sure that my babies father is going to want nothing to do with the baby. To avoid telling his GF what he did, hes just going to pretend that this never happened. How could he ignore his child just so that he doesnt have to admit what he did. Hes not being a man about this at all. It breaks my heart that he could just toss us aside like we are nothing but trash. I dont want nothing from him. If he wants to bail on this baby I think thats his cross to bare. Does anyone agree. Im not going to say a word because I can't make him love the baby. Are alot of men this dumb during pregnancy. Do some men just not bond with their own flesh and blood. Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. Im tring to stay mature. I really do feel bad for his GF. I dont know her but I dont like to see anybody hurt. Do I just cut him out of my life?? And when am I going to get more mad at him for what hes doing.
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December 29th, 2006, 07:46 AM
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personally i've had two really bad experiences from men and my children, too long to get into it, however i think that you and your child is much better off. Get him to sign papers NOW that he does not want anything to do with baby and signing over his rights to the child. This way he can't come back and fight for custody to hurt you. Like i said I think that i am biased about this, but it would be a shame if his gf found out about how he got you pregnant and then dumped you so she wouldn't find out and then that it would probably happen to the next girl too.



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December 29th, 2006, 08:42 AM
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I woudl show up one day at his house with the baby in tow.. Just to prove a point. He may not want to be in the childs life, FINE, but at least show him what he has done. His GF will get the picture. That way, he will lose 2 things..

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December 29th, 2006, 08:56 AM
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Take him to court, at least if he is not there emotionally- he will be there financially.
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December 29th, 2006, 09:05 AM
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I believe you have two options. If you need his help financially then I would take him to court after your child is born for child support. If you don't need him financially and he wants nothing to with your child then I would make him sign over his rights now. Like someone mentioned above, I've seen/heard of several men claiming throughout the entire pregnancy they want nothing to do with the child and after the child is born fighting for custody.

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December 29th, 2006, 01:50 PM
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i agree entirely with miranda. if you need him (i know its hard to admit) then take him for what he owes, if not, then cut him out of your life cos he's obviously isnt man enough to be a proper father.
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January 8th, 2007, 10:04 AM
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I agree with everything the ladies have said here.
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January 10th, 2007, 11:59 AM
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get him to court and take him for all he's got!
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January 12th, 2007, 07:29 PM
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Well its always a bad situation when men dont stop to think because theyre too worried about looking bad. I believe you should atleast get child support. Even if you dont want it, put it aside.. college fund or maybe for a car when the child is 16. Something. & its also a constant reminder to the father that he bailed out on something so beautiful & wonderful!
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