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March 2nd, 2007, 07:16 PM
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I don't know if I should let my future ex husband be at the birth of our child. I talk to him occasionaly, but we always end up arguing. He's trying to prevent me from giving child support by giving me $100 a month. Which was Jan and Feb. I just don't think he deserves it. He threatend me before. And told me that he was going to make my life miserable, but I haven't given him a restraining order yet. Any advice or suggestions? he hasn't shown much excitement or caringness( ) for the baby.
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March 3rd, 2007, 10:05 AM
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sounds to me like you've answered your own question. If he can't treat you properly, then why would you want him there. I would as a good friend of yours to be your coach so you can have someone there to help you rather than frustrate you.

You don't have to decide until it's time.
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March 3rd, 2007, 10:56 AM
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I guess your right. I did kind of answered my own question. But it helped to hear your answer. It really did help. Thanks a lot.
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March 3rd, 2007, 11:15 AM
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I'm glad I helped you. I say, pick someone to be there with you who adds something special to your life. A best friend, cousin, etc. . . not someone you are thinking of getting a restraining order against. Make the experience something you look forward to. Not something that will stress you out. It sounds to me that having him there will make it difficult for you.

I'm sorry you have to make a choice like this.

Are your kids excited about the new baby that is coming?
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March 4th, 2007, 12:08 AM
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Its your call but to be honest if he's there... make him wait in the room.. you don't want to worry about him while trying to have your baby... And as for the child support... Hell i'd take his ##### to court for it... but then again I am slightly ruthless... and I can say I'd do it... but I'm not taking my baby's father to court... I'm to scared of him lol... I say do a pro con list as silly as it sounds and see what that says... good luck in your decision...
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March 4th, 2007, 05:15 AM
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birth is hard enough without someone you dont like being in the room. make him wait outside if he really wants to be there.

best of luck!
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March 4th, 2007, 03:08 PM
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I'm glad I helped you. I say, pick someone to be there with you who adds something special to your life. A best friend, cousin, etc. . . not someone you are thinking of getting a restraining order against. Make the experience something you look forward to. Not something that will stress you out. It sounds to me that having him there will make it difficult for you.

I'm sorry you have to make a choice like this.

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Thanks Everyone for the advice! and yes they are excited. Especially Esther (the oldest) she's been wanting me to have a little baby brother for her. I made her wish come true. Too bad it's with someone I can't stand. But I am use to the whole single parenting thing. We''l be just fine. As long as I have you guys I thought about it and I decided that he will not be at the birth or in the hospital for thta matter. I just don't want more stress while I'm giving birth. PLus, he doesn't deserve it. He's put me through h*ll.
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March 4th, 2007, 03:39 PM
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i'm so happy you made a decision! i'd hate to think of your birth as being more stressful than it should be.
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