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February 23rd, 2008, 10:30 AM
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Hello everyone. I am 28 and have to daughters now. I have a 10 year old and a 15 month old. My first pregnancy was unplanned and my senior year in high school. We had already had plans to get married so we just went ahead and got married. The second pregnancy was planned. My husband had an affair on me while I was pregnant with our second child. She was my best friend and like a second mom to my daughter. We did everything together. I was devastated and horrified at the fact that he could do this to me and especially while I was pregnant. We worked things out and I thought things were going well. I found out I was pregnant on January 12th with our third and he left us on January 19th. He left us and went back to the woman he had the earlier affair with. I am again devastated and so is my oldest daughter. Me and the other woman was talking again and she had convinced me and my kids that she had went through counceling and that she was so very sorry for what she put me through the first time and that she would never do that to anyone ever again especially me. Well there is a lot more to the story as well but that is the short form. Since my husband has left he is being very cruel and mean and won't even acknowledge this baby even though he isn't denying paternity at all. I know he has issues obviously cause I don't see how a man can cheat on his pregnant wife twice. We are getting a divorce and my oldest won't have anything to do with him and he just doesn't understand why she feels that way. She is very angry and hurt over this. Ok that is enough about the situation which brings me to the point. I am very confused right now and being pregnant and alone and on my own with two kids and one on the way is really starting to take its toll on me. He is helping financially and I am barely scraping by so I can't imagine what it is going to be like when the third one gets here. I want this baby and want to keep this baby since I am already 11 weeks along. My oldest daughter is excited about the thought of another baby too. If anyone is or has been in my situation that can offer any advice I would greatly appreciate it. I am doing the best I can right now and money is obviously tight and the stress level is running extremely high which I know isn't good for the baby. I am just looking for someone that can tell me that things are gonna work out and I am gonna be fine and not loose my mind over this. Thanks in advance for any advice, thoughts, or opinions.
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February 23rd, 2008, 05:19 PM
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Hugs! I am sorry about your husband.. hopefully expecting this baby will help you and your other children get through this tuff time... You will make it through... IF I DID you can! Were all here for you!

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February 25th, 2008, 12:28 PM
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I don't have any living children, so I can't really give you any advice, but can give you some
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February 25th, 2008, 04:54 PM
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What a jerk. I know all about cheating husbands = ) [[sarcastic smile.. not a happy smile]]

I'm sorry he left you in this situation. Luckily, that will free you up to find a man that will treat you in a way that you should be treated. I know it's ridiculously impossible to think this way now.. but when you look back in two years and you're dating a wonderful man.. you'll be SO happy you went through all of this, just so you could find a better person (and be strong enough to do so)

on that note.. cheaters should all be sent to an island.. where they're beat.. and attacked by lions. mm hm. -nods-

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