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March 7th, 2008, 04:15 AM
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And got the reaction I knew I was going to get....only it is something about actually hearing him say what he said is somehow still a shock of sorts...

So, I drop the news and he is like no way jose'.....then it sinks in and he says 'I do not want another baby'. I told him I know. He said, "having another child was not what he planned or wanted'...again I know this....

Anyway, he then tells me he does not think we should have it...

So that is where we stand. I am not thrilled, but I do not want to have an abortion...but I also don't want to have a baby my DH does not want...then there will be resentment, and I know how things can turn ugly.

This is so out of wack

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March 7th, 2008, 05:39 AM
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I am so sorry that you got that reaction. It's the exact reaction I got and I have gone through just about every emotion and every option available. Please feel free to PM me if you want to. I have MSN as well if you just want to "talk it out".

You'll make a decision that will work for YOU. There is a lot to consider but in the end you get to make the decision.

We're all here for you.

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March 7th, 2008, 09:29 AM
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I'm so sorry he reacted like that! if you don't want to have an abortion and don't think you can go threw it then don't let any one pressure you!

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March 7th, 2008, 02:01 PM
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I'm sorry your dh acted that way... You need to do what you think is best, afterall this baby is inside you not your dh... Try talking things out with him and see what happens... I know a lot of people who weren't thrilled to be having a baby but after the baby arrived it was a totally different story... Maybe your situtation will be the same... Good luck with your decision and congratz on the pregnancy! Kup!
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March 8th, 2008, 02:59 AM
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Thank you all for your kind words...this is soooooo stressful, you would not believe!

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March 8th, 2008, 10:24 PM
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That is the common BF/DH reaction. From what I've heard (from ladies on this board and friends IRL) they all change their mind and do not resent the child.

If you are both really serious about not having this baby, do what you have to do, but please don't have an abortion just because he wants you to.

I wish you the best of luck with whatever you decide is best for you.

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