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June 2nd, 2010, 12:06 AM
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How does your dh/SO feel about abortion? Does that position influence your position? Has that position caused friction in anyway?
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June 2nd, 2010, 05:21 AM
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DH agrees with me that it should be a woman's choice. Neither of us influenced each other, we just found out when discussing it that we both agreed.

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June 2nd, 2010, 08:49 AM
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SO doesn't really like the idea of abortion, but he also understands and agrees that it is a woman's choice. He will never be in a position to have to make that decision for himself....
His thoughts on it won't change my thoughts on it...
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June 2nd, 2010, 01:52 PM
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I am very pro-life. When we first go together we were walking and asking each other questions. I asked what he would want to do if we were to accidentally get pregnant. He replied with he wouldn't be against considering abortion. I politely informed him that I wouldn't view that as an option for me. He said "ok" and that was that.

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June 2nd, 2010, 04:04 PM
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His views align with mine. There are certain circumstances when it's the better choice, but for the most part it's a thumbs down. I don't know if he'd ever vote to make it illegal... but I doubt it.
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June 2nd, 2010, 07:11 PM
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Our views are pretty much the same. We're both pro choice.
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June 3rd, 2010, 08:21 AM
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He's 100% pro-choice and as am I. We don't conflict in any way about our views thank goodness. If we had things probably would have been a lot different.

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June 3rd, 2010, 08:36 AM
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he is just as pro-life as I am. he isn't as vocal or active just because he has other passions.
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June 3rd, 2010, 01:58 PM
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He's more firmly pro-life than I am, but we've had some really good discussions on the subject, which has opened his mind quite a bit.
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June 3rd, 2010, 08:13 PM
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DH is pro-choice. I don't think its something he gives a whole lot of thought to though!

If I were to become pregnant now I would likely have an abortion for medical reasons and he knows this and agrees.
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June 4th, 2010, 03:14 AM
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Dh is pretty much like me on this. It would be a big fat no for us for any reason other than something life threatening, but he think we can't push our beliefs on others. Our only difference is that I think I would carry a pg that was life threatening to me if the baby could be okay & he would adamantly not want me to. I just truly hope this never comes up for us & I wish it never came up for anyone. I have had zero health problems in pg so far - so I hope that is how it stays!
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June 4th, 2010, 01:27 PM
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Both of us are pro-choice, and I don't think our relationship would have gone this far if he wasn't pro-choice. There are a few values I don't compromise on in a relationship, and abortion is one of them.
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June 4th, 2010, 08:45 PM
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He is pro-choice, as am I. We both also accept that it's up to the female to either get one or not, since the female's body is the one hosting and all. I do not believe we would be so harmonious if we disagreed on this issue.

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June 5th, 2010, 11:42 PM
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We're pretty opposite actually. His ex had an abortion awhile before they broke up (he knew about it, she didn't do it on the sly or anything). I am not necessarily pro-life, but I could never have an abortion myself. I know he would not have a problem if I had made that choice, though.

It doesn't really affect our relationship, though.... he never made the suggestion when I got pregnant (even unexpectedly). It's just like some political beliefs and other issues we disagree on. It's interesting to hear both sides, and we respect each other's opinion.
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June 13th, 2010, 06:07 AM
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We're both very pro-choice. It works out.
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June 19th, 2010, 07:56 AM
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We are fairly similar. Neither of us would have the heart to abort our own, but believe it is a useful option for individuals and society. Though he is prochoice I think he is more prochoice based on circumstances and more judgmental of those who do choose to have an abortion than I am.

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