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March 21st, 2008, 09:54 PM
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That's a tough one. But no, I wouldn't.
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March 22nd, 2008, 10:06 PM
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I got this idea from the other thread. Say you were raped and became pregnant. They later found the man that raped you and determined he had AIDS. You find out that you and the fetus are both infected. Do you abort?[/b]

That said... what a horrible thing to happen.

Dh and I would abort.
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March 23rd, 2008, 08:08 PM
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Yep, I would abort. And then track down that guy and sue him since his action would be taking my life away from my family. I'd have his behind in jail for what he did and sue him for all he had and more so make sure my family would survive without me once I died from AIDS.
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March 24th, 2008, 04:36 PM
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That is a great question.

I would speak to doctors and specialists and see what they had to say. Unless they were very positive about it then i would most like abort. And like said above, I'd sue his pants off for ruining my life.
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April 1st, 2008, 08:46 AM
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I would abort if raped, STD, HIV, or not.
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April 2nd, 2008, 11:39 AM
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I would abort if raped by a stranger(and did) given HIV or not
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May 6th, 2008, 06:03 AM
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i think i would have to pray about it.

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May 27th, 2008, 10:10 PM
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May 28th, 2008, 02:48 PM
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I would abort if I was raped, HIV or not. Although in the case of the HIV, I'd sue the pants off the guy that did it and make sure that my family was well taken care of.
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May 29th, 2008, 12:42 PM
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June 7th, 2008, 06:51 PM
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That is an awful Hard one!! Wow...hmmm...I would have the baby but give it up for adoption with the intentions that they know the baby is infected.

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June 14th, 2008, 03:17 AM
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Do they even know if a baby is infected with HIV pre-birth? You wouldn't know you were infected for months...
In the majority of the infected population, HIV remains asymptomatic for years. The only way to know if you have HIV is to be tested. It is important to know, however, that it may take up to six months after exposure to the HIV virus before you will test positive on an HIV antibody test, although most infected people will test positive within 3 months. A negative test, therefore, isn't a reliable indicator of your infection status if you were only exposed last week. Tests that look directly for HIV RNA, the virus' genetic material, can detect an infection earlier, but are harder to find.[/b]

If the mother is HIV-positive, passively acquired maternal antibody to HIV can cross the placenta, as many other immunoglobulin G antibodies can, making neonatal detection of HIV complicated. The infant will appear HIV positive even if it has not acquired the virus. The use of viral cultures as a method of detecting and diagnosing HIV infection in the infant is difficult and impractical. HIV infection presents in children with nonspecific signs and symptoms.[/b]
There are many more article on detecting HIV in pg & infants, but most I found were sites you had to be a paid member and appeared to be medical journals. I found nothing that appeared as though you could find out ahead of birth though....but I can't swear somewhere int hose articles it wasn't mentioned since I could not access them. I have never personally heard of being able to test a baby pre-birth for HIV.

I found this :
around 15-30% of babies born to HIV positive women will become infected with HIV during pregnancy and delivery[/b]

I wouldn't abort. I still can't see how having an abortion would "undo" what happened & for me it certainly would complicate my emotional healing. The only scenario I can ever see me getting an abortion is if death was imminent for me & baby if I didn't. Then I see it as the lesser of two evils.
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June 14th, 2008, 12:36 PM
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I would say probably not...I feel I have to add "probably" because I "think" I know what I would do...and I like to hope that under such dire circumstances I would stick to those principles, but realistically under such incredibly traumatizing circumstances I feel I shouldn't say FOR SURE how I would react.

That said, as it stands now, I would think not. Based on what I believe about abortion, I think having one would only complicate, not help, my emotional recovery from such an event...not to mention, people can live a long and happy life even with HIV. I would not want to presume to think that a life with HIV is not worth living at all.
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June 19th, 2008, 10:39 AM
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I would definitely abort.
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July 31st, 2008, 05:52 PM
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I would have already aborted so it would be a non-issue.

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August 1st, 2008, 03:50 PM
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I would have aborted in the first place, regardless of HIV status. Plus you can't know for sure if the baby will be HIV + or not.
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August 2nd, 2008, 10:59 AM
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No I wouldn't abort.

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October 3rd, 2008, 01:30 PM
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October 3rd, 2008, 07:48 PM
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HIV or not, would not play into my decisiion to abort or not. Would i get an abortion if i was raped in general:??? One of the questions i could not for sure answer unless i was ACTUALLY put in the situation

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