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January 12th, 2010, 07:20 PM
heathernoel's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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My ob called. Together with the other drs. in the practice, they have decided that instead of comanaging my pregnancy with a high risk specialist, I should instead see a high risk ob full time. Reasons given were my prior c sections, my prior losses, and my weight (which really pissed me off because I literally had 23 pounds of clothes on yesterday when they weighed me. I am heavy, but I sat next to a heavier woman in the waiting room).

I knew it was coming...common sense could tell me that. But in the matter of that two minute phone call I went from thinking I could handle this to wanting to jump in front of a moving bus. Except that I'm so disgusting that maybe the bus would get scared away.

What am I doing? Why am I doing this? I want this baby....will anyone want me after?

I feel disgusting and lower than a snake in a wagon rut.
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January 12th, 2010, 07:32 PM
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Aw hun, I am sorry you feel so down, after talking to your ob!!!! Some doctors REALLY need to work on their bedside (well, phone) manner, because I don't think they realise how much some things they can say, hurt....

YOU can handle this, and I am sure you look great - like a REAL WOMAN! I really really REALLY hate when such emphasis is placed on weight, or the way you look, because when you're already feeling a bit low, that sort of talk has the ability to put you over the edge.

(((((hugs))))) we are all here for you, and to help you get through this!!!!

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January 12th, 2010, 09:56 PM
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Aww, sweetie I know those words hurt but it may be that your OB was feeling as though they couldn't give you the care you an your baby need and that by refering you full time to a high risk specialist both of you would get better care. Try to look at the positive, it will help lessen the sting some.
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January 13th, 2010, 03:22 AM
heathernoel's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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Thank you ladies. I had a rough few hours there.

I will be ok, I know it. Yes, it's better for us both. I guess I just had myself fooled. It doesn't help that DH REALLY can't understand how I'm feeling...it's not his body, kwim? He seems to be handling the pregnancy a whole lot better than I am at the moment.

Thanks for letting me get it off my shoulders. I guess the reality of being "high risk" is starting to sink in.
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January 13th, 2010, 04:19 AM
Ellemphriem's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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I am a lurker but i wanted to tell you that you are doing wonderful. As i see from your signature i 'think' you have to be judged high risk. It is not a mean kind of nasty old kind of label this high risk. It there in order to manage to take you through this pregnancy and onto a healthy baby. I was high risk also. Stephie is our first baby. I got gestational diabetes and on top of that Intrehepatic cholestasis of pregnancy. And this is a woman that was a former athlete and that started the pregnancy 115 pounds *ending now 145 unable to shed them*.......and yes i was high risk. It didn't matter to me. What mattered is getting out of this healthy (both of us). As for you, i think the first person that will want you and love you more than anything else in the world is the baby you are carrying inside you, and then everyone else you hold dear as a family.............you are doing wonderful!

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January 13th, 2010, 04:28 AM
heathernoel's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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Thank you...you have no idea how awesome it was to hear that. Thank you...you made my day.
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January 13th, 2010, 08:50 AM
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There are some good things about being high risk. You'll have more frequent doctor's visits and a lot more ultrasounds, which is really nice when you are facing a nervewracking pregnancy after loss.

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January 13th, 2010, 12:33 PM
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((Hugs)) I hope you are feeling better today. It's not so bad being seen at the high risk clinic...they'll have the latest technology, research, and treatments available.
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