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February 25th, 2012, 08:22 AM
joonzgurl's Avatar Proud mama of 2 girls
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Location: Small Town, Alberta, Canada
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Me and DH's relationship has really suffered since our baby girl was born 6 months ago. There are just some issues that we need to work through, and it is really hard.

We are nowhere near breaking up or anything, but I know that if things don't improve, give it another year or two and you never know what could happen.

Relationships take work. I know that. They need to be nurtured. However I feel like I do all the nurturing. Regardless... does anyone have any ideas?? Or how can I make him see that he needs to do something differently?

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Avery Elizabeth (08/27/2011) & Dawsyn Brielle (10/29/2013)
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February 25th, 2012, 08:36 AM
youngwoman's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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Location: Georgia
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Have you sat down and had a conversation with him about this? Explaining that you feel like you're the only one making an effort? Maybe he just needs it spelled out for him, so he understands what your needs & desires are.

My other suggestion would be going to counseling together. If you're already feeling like your relationship is struggling, it may be wise to seek counseling now so that in another 1-2 years, you're stronger and in a better place and your baby girl has two happy parents.

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February 25th, 2012, 08:51 AM
*Kiliki*'s Avatar i have absolute power
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talking....communication is the key to a happy marriage...without communication there really is nothing....sit him down...talk to him....find someone to watch the baby once a week or every other week and have a date night....just the two of you to go out reconnect....

counseling is great like Amanda said...me and my dh went through it about 3-4 years ago and it really opened our eyes to a lot of things....its nice to have a third party to bounce things off of who has no connection to you....

Kristy, wife to Karl 6.16.01, Mom to Raianna 12.7.00, Elyse 12.3.02 and Helena 7.20.07, step-mom to Frankie 7.3.97 and step-grandma to October 3.9.15

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February 25th, 2012, 02:42 PM
feythful's Avatar Proud Dec '13 DDC Co-host
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Do you all spend any quality time alone? A date night may be what you need to reconnect without worrying about a little one who needs to be taken care of. Other than that, I ditto what the other girls said.
Wife to sweet husband Jeff and mother to 2 beautiful girls: Emily (2) and Jocelyn (1).

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