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February 23rd, 2013, 03:50 PM
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My kids are 4 and 2.9, they have always been mommys little ones but now its getting difficult. Today at the grocery store my 2.9 year old screamed through the store because daddy was holding her and not mommy. And then my 4 year old fell and would only let me touch him to make sure he was ok. I know that since were close to having the new baby that some of this is normal but my poor DH is starting to feel not wanted by them. Any suggestions would be great. Thank you.
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February 23rd, 2013, 07:41 PM
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Maybe he could take them and spend some alone time with them and rebuild that with them. also maybe let him step in and you reinforce your encouragment of him in front of the children
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February 23rd, 2013, 08:39 PM
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ugh I got a clingy one too....she is 10 now...and wow it can get annoying haha...man I feel horrible for saying that..
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February 23rd, 2013, 11:44 PM
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Ive got clingers as well and its very hard for me because I am the type of person that NEEDS my own space but I know they are young children and they want/need mama a lot so I tell myself they are only this small for so long but I will admit there are times it drives me nuts and I really need a break. Mine are almost 6, 3 and 1 yr and they are still all very needy/clingy.
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February 24th, 2013, 06:55 AM
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Kiliki do not feel horrible for feeling that way. I hear "mommy, mommy" all day. When my DH gets home i sometimes need to take a shower just so i get some peace and quiet. Im pregnant so its not like i can really have alone time.

Amira i do really like your idea, i will definatly try it.
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February 24th, 2013, 10:21 AM
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Both my kids are clingy, I think it's because dh works so much. They are with me all the time, I feel bad because when he tries to hold the baby and cuddle on the weekends, he only wants mommy.

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February 24th, 2013, 12:22 PM
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Avery is clingy... but when DH gets home I am chopped liver. She will settle more quicky for me when hurt or startled, but she will settle for her dad if I am busy.

I can't imagine if I didn't get that break when dH got home!!! OMG I feel so bad for you, LOL! Hopefully trying Amira's suggestion will help.

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February 24th, 2013, 04:34 PM
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I let the kids and my DH spend the afternoon together and i tried to just let them be and not interfer at all. Its actually harder to not interfer than i thought it would be. They did really well, they built a castle out of my recycleing and played catch. They all seemed to have a blast. He is also doing their bedtime routine and it seems to be going well. Keep your fingers crossed, but i think doing this every now and then may help them.
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February 24th, 2013, 05:42 PM
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It's different for me. I'm a single mom. So yes, my 4 year old is very clingy but most of the time I don't mind it. But he's also in preschool so I really appreciate having that really close time with him when he's home. My baby (5 months old) is only clingy when he's not feeling good and just wants to be held. But most of the time he is very laid back.

When my boyfriend is around my 4 year old (we don't live together yet) he wants NOTHING to do with me. Sometimes it's just something they have to go through, but the best thing would be for your DH to have some alone time. If you try to go out they would probably feel like they're missing out, but if you stay in and they plan to go do something exciting it would be the opposite. (i.e. you're tired, need a break, have to clean, etc - something that they wouldn't feel like they're missing out)

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February 25th, 2013, 06:22 AM
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My youngest is my only clingy child and that's mostly towards his dad, if dad is in the room he MUST be holding him or he's crying. It's ridiculous! I think it's just a phase though and he'll grow out. I wish I had some advice for you but I guess I don't really!

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