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March 3rd, 2013, 02:04 PM
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Hi all. I guess this is where I belong on JM now.

A little backstory: I have 3 boys (3 pregnancies) and we decided to TTC a 4th, I was shocked when we were successful on the first cycle. I had an us at 6w5d and was measuring 5w5d. My OB kept saying how great everything looked, and I told him it wasn't right. He was convinced I just had my dates wrong, I was convinced something was wrong...but not my dates. He went ahead and scheduled an u/s for a week later saying by then we should see a strong HB and just adjust the EDD. 2 days after everything happened--it was a nightmare and my ER experience was something I feel like belongs in a horror movie. It was on a Friday evening, on Monday I went to the OB's office and they did an ultrasound to confirm-just showed I had a clot left to pass. My OB wasn't there that day so I saw another one. I was still in a bit of a fog at the time and didn't think to ask some questions. I'm hoping ya'll may be able to help me out, I'm really a bit clueless about m/c things in general so have been trying to read up on some things.

-How long after a m/c should we wait to TTC again? I'm not sure since it was a fairly early one if it's ok to jump into it or if there should be a waiting period.
-Is there any normal time for ovulation to happen again? I'm guessing it varies with every person just like after a successful pregnancy, but am not sure if there is a "norm" at all.

Any help or words of wisdom would be appreciated, thanks!
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March 3rd, 2013, 03:32 PM
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I'm so, so sorry for your loss.

Regarding trying again, I'd talk to your doctor- with a natural, no-complication mc, you may be told to wait until after one natural cycle, but it's possible to conceive again within that same cycle, viewing the mc as a "period". The only thing is that your hormones might be out of whack for awhile, making it hard to know exactly when you ovulate. Waiting until after one natural cycle takes a bit of the guesswork out of it, but according to my OB, there's no medical reason to wait. (Again, assuming no complications)
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March 3rd, 2013, 11:35 PM
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Yep. That's what we were also told. They tracked my HCG to make sure it went down to 0 before we started trying again. They put an emphasis on my HCG being negative before we started trying again, but after that, we were free to start TTC again. I just got my first AF 27 days after having my first miscarriage (I was 6 weeks, but ultrasound measured 5 weeks and a natural miscarriage)

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March 4th, 2013, 09:13 AM
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HI, I had a miscarriage in December. This was my 1st miscarriage. My Dr. told me that we could start trying asap. She said that an egg is released a week or two after the miscarriage so it's possible to get pregnant again before AF visits.
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March 4th, 2013, 09:23 AM
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I'm so sorry for your loss.

My doctor told me that we could try again as soon as my hcg was at zero. He only recommended waiting if we were not emotionally ready. My cycle was right on track with my first m/c. It was natural and I o'd right on time, as if my body had a period instead of m/c. After my second one, induced, I had a normal cycle, then everything went haywire. I'm still waiting for AF, should have been on 2/28. I guess everyone is different.
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March 4th, 2013, 10:25 AM
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I am so sorry for your loss. It can be so hard to think of all the questions when you are going through such a difficult time.

I think the best option would be to call in to your doctors office and double check with them. It really is different for every woman and situation.

Best of luck to you. Hope you get your sticky BFP soon!

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March 4th, 2013, 01:36 PM
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I'm sorry you or any of us for that matter, are here. I think your OB will tell you how long to wait. Some do an US some take bloodwork, others say to wait until first AF.

That being said, I've read alot of accounts where women started right away regardless of their OBs directive.
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March 4th, 2013, 06:47 PM
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Thanks everyone. I have a followup scheduled with my OB in a few weeks. I think I'll put a call in tomorrow and see what they say.
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March 4th, 2013, 11:11 PM
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So sorry for your loss. Glad you have a follow up and will ask your Dr. We decided to try again right away, after I read it should be fine given our circumstances. I was told to test with hpt's to ensure the hcg levels went all the way down. Around the time I finally got a negative hpt, a couple weeks after the loss, I started having o' signs and a couple weeks after that af arrived. So my belief is your body likely o's around the time the hcg is out of your system. I don't know and it's different for everyone, but I wish you luck in getting answers and your TTC journey.

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