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March 28th, 2013, 09:41 PM
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I thought I was doing a lot better with dealing with my mc but then something will come along and knock me back again.

A relative gave me a present today - a tiny knitted baby jacket that has been in the family for a while. She promised that it wasn't a "hint" for me and that she wanted me to have this family heirloom for when the time comes but it broke my heart. I should have a baby right now to put in that jacket but instead I tucked it away in my box of baby things along with my first and last ultrasound and the little pair of booties that a friend knitted for me when she found out I was pregnant.

Luckily I didn't cry in front of her but I just feel so sad and empty inside. She didn't know about the mc - almost no one did so of course she wouldn't have known how it would make me feel but it still hurts so much even after all these months.

1 partial molar pregnancy and 2 ectopics. Read my story here.
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March 29th, 2013, 05:24 AM
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Aww, that was nice of her. But of course it made you sad. You did the right thing. Tuck it away. Busy yourself with other things.

I'm sorry there isn't a way to make the hurt and sorrow go away. But we wouldn't be loving humans if there were I think.
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March 29th, 2013, 06:12 AM
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I'm so sorry. Little reminders make me feel down too. I just try to get some sunshine, and find something to do that I enjoy. Hope you feel better soon.
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March 29th, 2013, 07:22 AM
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I'm so sorry, I can imagine how tough that must have been It's a lot harder when most people don't know about a m/c. She obviously meant well and it was a sweet gesture, but what you've been through, hard regardless!

Lots of <HUGS>
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March 29th, 2013, 07:51 AM
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that would be so hard.

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March 30th, 2013, 08:05 AM
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Thanks for the kind words, ladies. Some days are harder than others but it helps to have people who understand.

1 partial molar pregnancy and 2 ectopics. Read my story here.
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March 30th, 2013, 12:20 PM
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I'm so sorry. That does sound like it hurt. The hurt doesn't feel any less based on intention. Each day you'll get a little stronger. (Hugs)
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March 30th, 2013, 04:43 PM
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Awww, that's so sweet, but so sad. I'm so sorry hun. I hope you are able to move along with a baby you can take home and put in that jacket very soon. Big hugs.
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