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April 19th, 2013, 09:15 PM
geogeek's Avatar Marsi's Mommy
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I don't know if I am emotionally ready to TTC again yet. 3 consecutive losses and I don't even know if my Thyroid meds have even worked. The kicker that made me really know that I am not ready is the fact that I just googled how much a small pack of condoms were at a local store to pick up tomorrow. I know that it is for my mental health. It is really hard to make the decision. I am REALLY scared to tell DH. I know that he will just give me a hug, tell me that it is okay and it is up to me. It might even come as a huge relief to him. I just feel defeated. I feel like I am giving up. I know it is only for right now. Only for this cycle. Thanks for reading...

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April 19th, 2013, 09:50 PM
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Big hugs to you. While it might feel like you're wasting a cycle, perhaps taking a month off will be good in the long run. It will give you a break and might help clear your mind about what you want to do next. You're not giving up - just taking a break which is something that I am sure we can all relate to. Mental health is so important when TTC so I'm glad you're taking care of yourself.


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April 20th, 2013, 05:25 AM
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I can totally understand the need to take a break. Taking time off is not giving up at all and nobody can blame you for that after 3 consecutive losses and all of what you have been through, not only physically but also emotionally. I think it would be a very beneficial healing time for you to take a step back and take a break. Absolutely nothing wrong with that!!! I am between praying that AF shows up asap so we can try right away to waiting until July to give my body some time to heal. There's no right or wrong answer when it comes to ttc so just follow your heart and you'll do the right thing for you and your health!!! <HUGS>
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April 20th, 2013, 06:49 AM
geogeek's Avatar Marsi's Mommy
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Thanks ladies. I had a total breakdown last night when I told DH. It was do nice too just cry. I am going to buy protection today. It will be really nice to have a break. I need it. I just didn't know how much until last night.

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April 20th, 2013, 11:45 AM
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I'm glad you were able to realize how much you needed the break. Don't feel bad about it! Just take time to take care of yourself!
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April 22nd, 2013, 06:46 AM
MoonAngel702's Avatar ~Staying Positive~
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I'm so sorry you are going through these emotions I hope you feel better soon!
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April 22nd, 2013, 07:59 AM
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Sending you big hugs. I'm glad you were able to open up to your DH, as hard as it was, and find some comfort and clarity.
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April 22nd, 2013, 11:53 AM
momology's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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I am so sorry you are going through this. Taking time off could be very healing - I think we could all use a break sometimes even though it can be so hard to admit. I hope you find some comfort in your break and are feeling better soon. So glad you are taking care of yourself! We are here any time!

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Missed Miscarriage (10 weeks) - 6/2013
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April 23rd, 2013, 01:41 PM
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(((HUGS))) Rachel, I took a break between by 3rd (2nd consecutive) loss for a couple of cycles before I was ready to deal with TTC again. I actually wished I had taken a longer break after my 4th loss (3rd consecutive) but time was working against us and I panicked myself into trying earlier than I was really ready to.

All losses are hard, multiple consecutive losses are a special type of hell I wouldn't wish upon anyone. You're in my thoughts hun, take the time you need - trying to TTC when you aren't emotionally ready makes everything much harder and I think it's smart to take a little break for you (maybe a spa day thrown in too?) until you feel more at peace.

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