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October 24th, 2013, 02:43 PM
Join Date: Dec 2010
Posts: 372
Hi everyone. I am excited to say that AF is here!!! Wahoo!!!!

My name is Jen. I have a wonderful 2 year old DS who was conceived easily and with an uneventful pregnancy. We have been TTC #2 since May and while I have gotten pregnant twice, I have miscarried both pregnancies.

My first loss was very early (4.5 weeks) and I knew from the beginning that something was wrong because the tests got lighter not darker. I was so scared that it would happen again, but the next time around everything looked good -- tests darkened, betas doubled, tons of symptoms. But, I started spotting red one night. Went in for a sono the next day and we saw a heartbeat!!!! We were sooooo happy and relieved, told my parents that afternoon, and then I started bleeding more, and more heavily. My OB assured me that all was OK since we had just seen a heartbeat a few hours earlier but said I could come back in the following day for another sono for peace of mind. When we went back in there was no heartbeat anymore. We were blindsided and I was in complete denial. My OB scheduled a D&C for the following Monday so we could do testing on the baby, but I ended up passing everything naturally in the bathroom at pre-surgical testing. I freaked out because I wanted to have the testing done and scooped everything out of the toilet where I sat for hours waiting for them to take it for testing. It was worth it in the end because the testing showed trisomy 14 which is non-compatible with life. My OB thought we didnt need to go for repeat loss testing because of that, but DH and I decided to go for chromosomal analysis on ourselves tomorrow just to rule out translocations.

But... I am so excited to say that AF is finally here! She showed up yesterday, which is day 37 after i started bleeding and day 33 after passing the sac. My OB said we are now cleared to try again, which we are hoping to do. If I have a normal-for-me length cycle (I have longer cycles) and get pregnant with a healthy baby right away I would be due on my birthday. But, I am trying not to put too much pressure on myself.

Meanwhile, everyone i know is pregnant... hoping to join them soon!
Married 5 years <3

#1: DS born 8.25.11 at 40w1d
#2: chemical pregnancy 6.26.13 at 4w3d
#3: miscarriage after heartbeat 9.20.13 at 7w (trisomy 14)
#4: chemical pregnancy 12.2.13 at 5w
#5: hoping this is my RAINBOW baby. EDD 10.17.14

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October 24th, 2013, 05:02 PM
Super Mommy
Join Date: Oct 2013
Location: Michigan
Posts: 646
I am so sorry you had to go through losing a second little one and not in the nicest circumstances. A lot of us here, including myself, are dealing with the difficulty of being surrounded by pregnant women. It is so, so hard, I know. on the other hand, I am very happy for you that your period has come back and your back on track to start trying again. I hope so much for you that you get your rainbow baby this cycle and have the best birthday present you could ever receive! <3 good luck hun
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October 24th, 2013, 05:40 PM
Rainbow Catcher's Avatar Bound and Determined
Join Date: Jun 2013
Location: Virginia
Posts: 1,428
So sorry for your loss - it's nice to meet you. I really hope your stay is short and you get your BFP soon, but I hope you don't put too much pressure on yourself. I wish you lots of luck!!!
Forever missing our angel, 6/7/13.

10/19/14 - DE IVF, Transferred two 8-cell embies (3dt)
10/28/14 - 1st Beta = 70 at 9dp3dt
10/30/14 - 2nd Beta = 163 at 11dp3dt
11/5/14 - 3rd Beta = 1300 at 17dp3dt
11/17/14 - U/S - Twins, both with flickers of heartbeats!
11/25/14 - One twin stopped growing and lost their hb. :'( The other measures perfectly, hb: 157.
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October 24th, 2013, 06:06 PM
Danielle80's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
Join Date: Jan 2006
Location: Hunter Army Airfield (Richmond Hill), Ga
Posts: 3,667
So sorry. I have had 2 recent losses also and it sucks.. Plain and simple. Prayers for a BFP ASAP!!!
Danielle: Mom to Caitlyn (16), Brooklynn (12), Jackson (8), Lincoln (5), & Baby Harrison

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October 25th, 2013, 06:03 AM
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Join Date: May 2009
Location: Pennsylvania
Posts: 17,624
I am so sorry for your losses! I'm glad AF finally came so you can start trying again As for the genetic testing, I think it's a good idea. My thinking is you can never have enough information. If it comes back that everything is good, then perfect Just one more thing you know isn't a problem. If there is a problem, then you can start the process of fixing it. KUP!!

My Angels- 12-15-08 @ 13w3d♥ 05-09 @ 6w2d♥ & 2 Early Losses♥ Twins 9-7-10♥ & 10-2-10 ♥ 2/11/11

Expecting my baby boy May 9th
Emergency cerclage put in 12/24

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