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Forum: Trying to Conceive after Loss


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July 29th, 2014, 08:35 PM
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So I just want to get some other opinions from others who are going through the same thing. How many times have u guys changed drs?? Does changing too many times make it more difficult for ur Dr to get to know u/ move in the right direction and start the right treatments. My Dr now is my second since trying to conceive a year and half ago. After my first miscarriage I switched drs because mine was not on my insurance anymore and also doesn't deliver babies anymore ...so I would have to find someone for an OB anyways eventually. I liked my first Dr...had been with him for like 10 years and he was really easy to get ahold of..and I even had his cell number. He never kept me waiting for lab results as well. So then I got a new Dr on my insurance ...who was recommended to me from someone I worked with..she called him " baby whisperer" .. ummm not so Much. I liked him at first because he was very proactive...I started temping...then progesterone..then Clomid. Then I had an hsg and got pregnant about a year after my first misasrriage. That is when I feel I needed my Dr the most and I was very disappointed. I felt I was always having to harrass him to get lab results ..and then I started to spot and it was like pulling teeth to get ahold of him. He never even picked up on the fact that my hcg was literally the same exact number a week and a half apart. He was like...ur number is low but u are early along...I was like wait a minute isn't that the same hcg as a week ago..and he was like o yea it is..get it redrawn...then I never heard back. I was already scheduled for ultrasound the next day and the ultrasound tech made it sound hopeful..even though I didn't get my hopes up. She sent the report stat..but again no one got back to me that day ( Friday ) and I found out my Dr was out of town. The next day I bled heavily with clots so I called and demanded I get an oncall Dr..and ended up going to the hospital and miscarried. I forgot to mention this all happened a week after I stopped my progesterone. Prior to this my hcg was tripling and my Dr said it looked so good...he thought I was having twins. Then that Monday I still didn't get a call about the ultrasound..about my miscarriage ..nothing...I had to again harrass them . I luckily had a natural miscarriage ...and when I went back from my follow up a week or so later the PA asked me " so has he heard the heart beat yet ". I almost lost it !!! Any other time I would think it was just an honest mistake no biggie..but it made me wonder.. is anyone ever even looking at my chart .

That brings me to today..yet again I get completely ignored when I call to discuss some concerns with the Dr and to get my lupus antibody results from almost a Month ago. If they are negative that's fine but I swear I'm gonna lose it if when I finally get graced with his call they are abnormal. Cuz no one called me when some other test were mildy abnormal....and unneeded to see a specialist.

Ughh sorry for the long post. Just looking for some advice and want to hear others experiences with switching drs several times.
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July 31st, 2014, 09:00 AM
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First, sorry for your loss...
I would definitely get a new doctor...no questions asked. Even with it being summer and my doctor's office having shortened hours I haven't had to wait more than 48hours for lab results. As long as you have your medical history transferred then I think its fine. You need someone that you click with, and that is willing to take the time to talk to you and answer your questions...
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August 1st, 2014, 07:56 PM
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I would get a new one. I get my results via an online terminal before anyone even calls me. My OB does it that way so people have the option to see them before she calls so they can visualize what she's saying. We've haven't actively tried anything to get me pregnant yet, we're currently ruling things out while hubby takes vitamins to boost his counts.

But seriously, if I wasn't getting results right away, or at least within 48 hours.. I'd be looking for a new doctor.
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August 2nd, 2014, 12:48 AM
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I've had 6 OB doctors since my first pregnancy. My first was amazing, but moved to another country. Then I moved, and the first 2 I saw were total *ahhhemms*, and I couldn't stand them. The 4th and 5th were awesome, but then I moved 2x. And I love #6.

Definitely find one that you click with, that works well with you, and you're comfortable with. I know how frustrating (and scary, at least for me) it is switching doctors, but once you have a great one, it's worth it!
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August 2nd, 2014, 06:27 AM
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I'm very sorry for your loss.

I think getting a new doctor is probably best. If you're worried about the new one having to get to know you... The one you have now doesn't seem to know you soooooo... Might as well see if you can find someone that is more interested in being there for you. Good luck!
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August 10th, 2014, 05:22 PM
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Thanks guys. My husband thinks I'm crazy for wanting to switch dis but I'm just so stressed with this one. It's good to hear others have been in the same boat and have had good experiences even if it meant switching a few times
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