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December 21st, 2006, 05:23 PM
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Anyone having difficulty with getting unsolicited advice? Strategies for politely telling people you don't need to hear their theories on pregnancy?

My MIL, the queen of negativity, has been telling me about how everything in the world is going to give the baby some awful birth defect. OK, maybe not everything, but she's been telling me to avoid things that my doctor says are safe.
~Beth in Seattle

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December 22nd, 2006, 07:39 PM
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Well, the rude and to the point way would be "When you get your degree, you can tell me what to do". Unfortunately, I doubt that would go over so well. Unless she is actually staring at you eating or drinking at that particular point in time, I find the easiest thing to do is go "Oh, really?" then completely ignore them later. Or if you want to be a little rude you could ask her where she read/heard that particular thing. Usually they are old wives tails or things blown out of proportion that people start spreading around as true. If she can't come up with a reliable source, just tell her that you'll make sure to ask your doctor. Then the next time she says something you can tell her you checked and everything will be okay. This being said, most MILs are notorious for not caring whatever you do or say and will keep right on at you, so good luck!

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December 22nd, 2006, 09:25 PM
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I can't wait to hear what dear MIL has to say!

The funniest "advice" i've gotten is from my dad ~ it's ok to have a drink or two, it's the women who down the whole bottle that have to worry. (My dad idea of bottle isn't one beer, if you know what I mean.)
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December 22nd, 2006, 10:55 PM
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I don't have any advice, but I completely empathize! It gets worse once the baby arrives
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December 24th, 2006, 10:45 AM
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I just got off the phone with my aunt.. I've stressed to her and my family for years how worried about PPD I've been just to get a lecture from her to be aware of it!?!?!? I love her to death.. I just kinda feel like that hasn't been heard now.
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December 26th, 2006, 08:07 PM
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I always wonder why people feel the need to tell a pregnant woman all the HORRIBLE things that can happen I got so sick of the advice I got that I swore to never offer advice, but give when it was asked
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