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October 20th, 2013, 12:03 AM
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My husband and I are both very excited to have children, however, he wants our first to be a surprise. I, on the other hand want it to be planned. would it be wrong of me to try to get pregnant without telling him I'm ttc? I think that this would give us both what we are looking for since for me it would be planned and for him it would not. but I also feel like this would be going behind his back. he does want a baby, he just doesn't want all the planning involved in getting there. I think what he is trying to avoid is the disappointment of every month that I get a BFN. I'm just looking for some advice. and if I do decide to do it this way, how would I go about it? He's the kind of guy that notices everything. if I cut an inch off my hair, he would comment on it and tell me how good it looks. P.S. please forgive any mistakes in my typing, I am doing this from my phone.
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October 27th, 2013, 05:15 PM
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That is gonna depend. Are yall not trying not preventing? If thats the case, then I dont see a problem with knowing your cycle and kinda instigating bding before you o. However, if he is trying to not concieve right now, then no, it wouldn't be very honest. I know my hubby would be very nervous about taking the plunge and actively ttc. But hes always believed in pull n pray, and so we have never gotten to the point of needing to ttc. So, were I in your shoes, and he isnt preventing and just waiting to see, then id keep an eye on your cycle dates and go for it around those times. If now, then sit dkwn and tell him your reaching a point where yoir ready for a pregnancy and see where he is.

Fyi, I have 4. Breastfeeding won't always prevent a pg. Lol
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February 3rd, 2014, 07:11 AM
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You have a good point. Planning for a family is really good. I hope you can make your husband understand your point. Pray for the Holy Spirit to guide you both in your decisions.
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February 9th, 2014, 09:50 AM
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Hmm, I think there's still the element of surprise when you are TTC. You are not certain but I think you should still be honest with your and let him see things the way you do.
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February 17th, 2016, 07:45 PM
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you should be honest.
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July 12th, 2016, 05:47 AM
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Planning is really good. Be honest with your husband and try to convince your partner for a planned baby.
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January 8th, 2017, 07:22 PM
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wow this is a old post, what did you end up doing?
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