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January 15th, 2013, 07:44 PM
Join Date: Aug 2012
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What do you do if someone buys you an expensive gift you don't like/wont use?

A good friend bought be an expensive designer diaper bag that I know was a really big splurge she probably couldn't afford. I really appreciate the thought and don't want to seem ungrateful but I really do not like it. In fact I think its kinda ugly (pink and orange- im having a boy) and doesnt even have pockets. I would rather use the one on my registry that is 1/4 the price.

She was super excited about it so now I feel really bad. I thought about putting it in the closet and only using it when she is in town visiting but I feel bad about wasting her money (even though I have told her what I wanted in a bag and she chose to but her favorite brand/style). I think of myself of a pretty frugal/practical person so this is probably bothering me more then it should. In fact even if I liked the bag it would still kinda bother me that it cost so much.

What do you think? Am i over thinking this?
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January 15th, 2013, 09:00 PM
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I can understand your predicament. I am having a boy too and orange/pink not for me either.
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January 26th, 2013, 03:51 PM
butterfly721's Avatar Mommy-to-be to a baby boy
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I would just thank her for it and use it a few times in front of her. It sounds like it would really hurt her feelings if you returned it.

I wouldn't tell her that you think she spent too much either. That would probably really upset her. She's an adult, and if she wants to splurge on a designer diaper bag for you, then that's her choice.

Even though the bag isn't to your taste, she still sounds like a pretty awesome friend!! She obviously really cares about you to buy you such an expensive gift.
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February 19th, 2013, 11:20 AM
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Originally Posted by AndieP View Post
This is one of those awkward situations that many people face from time to time. It's a bit like receiving a fondue set from a close friend as a wedding gift which you will never use!

I honestly wouldn't worry about this diaper bag it too much. If you feel really bad about it, just use it a couple of times in her presence and then stop

I think if she see's that you've used it at least once then that will make her happy!
She is your friend. Tell her the truth.

and about the fondue set, i'd have loved to get one of those as a wedding gift!
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February 27th, 2013, 09:45 PM
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I say keep it as a fun beach bag or something for you. Maybe not a diaper bag, as you're having a boy, but why not use it for you? She's an adult and capable of making decisions, even if that decision is spending too much money when she shoulnd't. That's something she has to eventually learn on her own.

If you don't want to use it at all, then don't. Maybe donate it to a pregnancy resource center or something. But I think it would make a cute spa bag, pool bag, or picnic bag.

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March 13th, 2013, 01:04 AM
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As it is a gift, it’s always good if you keep it with you rather than returning it back to her, whether you use it or not its totally your choice.
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March 13th, 2013, 01:05 AM
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As it is a gift, itís always good if you keep it with you rather than returning it back to her, whether you use it or not its totally your choice.
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