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August 2nd, 2010, 10:26 PM
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Did you ever grieve over not getting the gender you wanted?

When I found out I was preg. we decided we were done, no matter the gender. (I had 3 boys already) We really wanted a girl & were blessed to have her, but I know that if she was a boy I'd grieve for the daughter I never had.
Did you have this or know someone who went through it? How did you (or they) deal?
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August 2nd, 2010, 11:37 PM
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While I did "get" both genders, I only got to keep one. I grieve but its different obviously.

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August 3rd, 2010, 12:46 AM
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Mellie, hugs sweetie

I never got a boy. But, that's ok.
When I was pregnant with my oldest daughter, I kept her gender a secret until she was born...I, however, had a super strong feeling that she was a boy. I wanted a boy so badly.
She was born at 28 weeks gestation, and when the doctor told me she was a girl, I asked him 3 times to make sure, because I wanted a boy...then I cried. And then I cried because she was a girl and was so happy and relieved that she was a girl, instead of a boy. LOL

And with my second baby, I really wanted another girl...so, I got 'lucky'. Even my pets are all girls.

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August 3rd, 2010, 08:03 AM
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I have 3 sons, no daughters.

I dont grieve over not having a daughter. I think it would have been nice and fun to buy spring dresses and the like but thats ok. I have 5 nieces I can do that for.

When we found out our last child was a boy I did have a day of what I call "bumitis" where I was sad he wasnt a she but I got over it quickly and havent felt bad since.

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August 8th, 2010, 09:25 PM
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We got lucky and got 2 of each.

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August 8th, 2010, 09:42 PM
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Originally, I thought I wanted all boys. Then we had Brynne, and I was so excited to have a girl. We didn't know for sure she was a she until her birth. With our last, I thought for sure it was a 3rd boy, but once we learned it was another girl, I was thrilled. Not only for me, but for Brynne..... she'd have a sister a year and a half younger than her. I feel lucky to have 2 of each, but I would have felt lucky regardless of the genders.

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August 11th, 2010, 03:16 PM
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I only got two girls. I so badly wanted a boy but I was told my body would not let me carry another baby so we had to be done. we may adopt one day but I wish I had a little boy
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August 14th, 2010, 10:41 PM
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my 5 are all girls, and right after my third I was maybe slightly bummed (wouldn't go as far as calling it disappointed), my 4th was a preemie, so I couldn't care less about the gender, and I was relieved my 5th was another girl.
Dh and I both figure that if we were ment to have boys, we would have had them, so we're happy with our family. Had we gotten to pick ahead of time I would have asked for a few of each, but now I wouldn't change a thing even if I had been able to.
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August 20th, 2010, 06:56 AM
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i have all girls and im quite content with that

Kristy, wife to Karl 6.16.01, Mom to Raianna 12.7.00, Elyse 12.3.02 and Helena 7.20.07, step-mom to Frankie 7.3.97 and step-grandma to October 3.9.15

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August 21st, 2010, 07:35 AM
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My first 2 were boys and we tried for a girl the third time because I did want one so badly. I was lucky to get her and I'm thrilled to have her. I think I would have been ok with another boy though. I just feel blessed for each of them.

Its funny because with my first I was convinced we were havng a girl! But the ultrasound tech said boy and he sure was. Then with number #2 I was like ok this is totally different and so its DEFINATELY a girl, haha nope. Another boy. Then when we went for #3s ultrasound I said, yea its a boy. No doubt about it. And she was a girl! I was like, are you sure? But didnt believe it fully till she was born!

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August 26th, 2010, 05:12 PM
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Nope. Never wanted a girl, we only wanted boys. And that's what we got.

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September 20th, 2010, 05:15 PM
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2 girls, and i an completely happy with that. DH would have liked a boy of course, but DD#2 is a major tom-boy
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September 22nd, 2010, 09:39 AM
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We didn't know what DD was until birth. DH wanted a boy so bad but when she came out, he was still so happy. I figured we would never have boys. When we found out DS #1 was a boy, we we're happy to have 1 of each. But then when we got pregnant with DS #2, I was hoping for a boy because we already had enough boy stuff!

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October 18th, 2010, 09:20 PM
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I have only ever expected to have girls, so I don't feel that I've 'missed out' on having a son.. but I can definitely understand why people would feel that way. At times I feel a little sad that I'll never know what it's like to have a son, but I wouldn't say it is something that I have 'grieved' over

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