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October 1st, 2010, 01:55 PM
*kimi*'s Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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Hello! My name is Kimi and I was wondering if I can join in here. I belong in the May '10 PR but I could use some support from Mommies who have chosen to not have any more children. I have a 6 yr old son Stephen and a 4 yr old son Dereon and my little girl Brielle is 4 months. She was born May 2010. I chose to have a Tubal after I had Brielle and while I think I was completely sure of my decision I still regret it. While I know it was the right decision for my family and I, I just cant help but to feel so sad that I will never have another baby. And its making it extremely hard for me to see my daughter grow because I know I will never have this again. Im sorry if I come off as completely psycho lol. But hopefully getting to know you ladies will help me come to terms with my decision.

Thanks for reading if you made it this far!!

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October 4th, 2010, 07:45 PM
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Kimi I belong to the January 2010 PR and we are also done having kids. We have a beautiful 'million dollar family' and despite knowing in my heart that we're done... I still feel nostalgic when I see pregnant women or new babies. I know the decision was the best for our family because I would impulsively just keep making babies every couple of years or so if we hadn't done something permanent LOL

I'm sure you're mourning the end of your baby making era and you will come to learn that in time! Hugs mama!

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October 4th, 2010, 08:47 PM
*kimi*'s Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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Aww thanks for that advice Im glad Im not alone!

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October 5th, 2010, 08:21 AM
nurselochia's Avatar Marathon running mom of 4
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I'm there with you! I had my last baby 2 weeks ago and had my tubal done then, and while I know that we don't want any more children, it's tough knowing there won't be any more babies.

Thanks Jaidynsmum!!

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October 5th, 2010, 05:14 PM
Amaranth Dhanya's Avatar aka Hillarie
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I think its normal to feel that sadness because you are ending one part of your life and beginning another.

All our lives we are taught that this is a big part of being a woman...bearing children. So for many years its a part of us and then one day, it ends. Very abruptly in some cases especially when you compare it to how many years we hear and dream about being mothers. So feeling its loss and that anticipation,etc is natural.

Dont feel bad that you have misgivings, you will work through them and become excited for this next stage of raising your family vs having them. Its all good!

Anywho...welcome!!!! Im Hillarie and I had a tubal after my last son(I have 3)was born back in Jan. 2008, after my c/section. Dont regret the decision and am happy to be moving forward. However, it is kinda hard to see my youngest getting big and knowing the only time Ill hear baby laughter again is on tv or on home videos. Thats what I miss the most of baby time...the laughter.

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