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April 25th, 2011, 06:01 PM
MellieB's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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How did you come to your decision to be done having children?

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May 1st, 2011, 03:30 PM
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When #3 turned out to be the biggest monster and I knew I couldn't handle anymore!

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May 1st, 2011, 10:23 PM
MellieB's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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I had a really stressful pregnancy with Lucy and knew that there was no way on earth I could ever go through that again.

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May 2nd, 2011, 04:42 PM
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we were done 8 years ago so we thought then my children started sayn the wanted a new baby in the house you they were all older and felt lik they couldnt remebr any babies in the house so we all agreed ok 1 more time but it didnt happen and then 2&1/2 yrs ago we lost our oldest son in n acccident i was torn up then the kids were all bk on a new baby kick but i wasnt i didnt want to seem like i was tryna replace my son and besides we were told i couldnt hv any more babies due to a car accident i was in---- anywho in Sept 2010 God blessed our family with a bfp which was a shock to us all but THIS HS BEEN THE WORST PRENANCY EVER!!! AND I REFUSE TO DO THIS AGAIN!!so i kno for a fact we're done even the kids say oh no mommiey we cant do this again lol so were gonna tke our lil blessing and close down the shop lol

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May 4th, 2011, 08:02 PM
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I am DONE after this baby. Discussing tubal with Ob and everything. I have some health concerns that aren't serious at the moment, but I have been seeing a specialist for about 7yrs. I am unable to see my specialist when I am PG and for 6m post delivery or 6m post breastfeeding...which ever comes first. As a result, I end up out of my specialists office for 2-3yrs when I have a baby and now that I will be almost 40 when I make it back in to the specialists office this time, I am not willing to risk my health going forward. I would rather be done with 2 and be able to go to my dr to assure myself I will be around to raise my children.

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May 5th, 2011, 03:28 PM
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dh had a vasectomy

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May 9th, 2011, 11:43 AM
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I just have a gut feeling. I have no desire or longing for more kids. Both of my boys are high needs and I am beyond exhausted. DH feels the same.

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May 10th, 2011, 07:45 AM
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I was done after #2 but they would not let me tie my tubes. I could not take BC because it made me deathly sick.... Sooooooooo needless to say when #2 was 7 months old i missed AF and took a test and yep it was positive! So by then i was old enough, i missed being old enough after #2 by 3 months. So on my first OB apt i told my OB that i was done and wanted my tubes tied. So after the birth of #3 they took me strait back and snip snip....
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May 21st, 2011, 05:28 PM
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I was about 14 weeks pregnant with Emersyn & had a big anxiety attack... I get really bad anxiety when I'm pregnant & the entire 40 weeks imagine the only outcome being not bringing a baby home from the hospital... The anxiety effected how I was able to parent Gaby & I decided when I had my anxiety attack, that I couldn't put Gaby through it again, or Emersyn - OR myself.

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May 21st, 2011, 08:03 PM
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When I came to after the emergency c section, my husband said "I almost lost both of you. We can't do this again."

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May 22nd, 2011, 10:05 AM
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DH and I knew from the beginning of the pregnancy that we would only have one. The pregnancy and delivery were easy, but I have no desire to be pregnant and deal with an infant again. It is also a financial decision for us. DH had a vasectomy when Ady was 6 months old. We love our family the way it is and I would be afraid that another child would rock the boat.

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May 22nd, 2011, 08:28 PM
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Both DH and I do NOT have the personality to deal with any more children. Plus, we both have different diseases/disorders, whatever you want to call them, that make us super fatigued all the time, so our patience is getting thinner all the time.

So a baby would be devastating to either of us.

We haven't done anything permanent, because we're both worried about how it would affect us (DH recovers terribly from everything, and I keep worrying about that post tubal ligation syndrome that I hear about), so I'm just taking BCP and being very careful to never forget.

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May 23rd, 2011, 05:30 AM
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DH & I have no desire to live through the infant stage again. I also had PPD and it scared me, even though I know I'd be prepared this time. And financially, one child makes sense for us.
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August 31st, 2011, 02:50 AM
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I have done with my 1st daughter and i m happy and satisfied with my decision.
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August 31st, 2011, 06:09 AM
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I had always said I'd only give birth twice. When Little Man was about 3 1/2, we started trying for another. I ended up miscarrying. Then, a few days before that baby was due, I got pregnant with Princess. That pregnancy was so horrible that had I miscarried, I would have gotten my tubes tied and never done it again. In March '08 I got a healthy baby girl and my tubes tied the next day. Just over 2 years later, I had a hysterectomy.
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August 31st, 2011, 07:56 AM
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We knew we only wanted 2-3.

After our second my husband left the decision of having a third up to me and I felt our family wasnt complete just yet.

Got a surprise BFP(hadnt planned on trying to get preggers til that fall and the BFP happened in the spring) and knew before trimester 1 was over that he completed our family and we were done diddley done.

The pregnancy wasnt horrible or anything I just knew deep within and throughout my entire being that he was it. And that feeling got stronger and stronger and Ive never doubted it in the least. Had my tubes tied the same day he was born cuz of my c/section...made it easier to do and that was that!

Nearly 4 yrs and still no regrets or second thoughts.

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August 31st, 2011, 08:35 AM
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Getting pregnant with Austin was a bit of a surprise. After he was born, I knew we would have at least one more because I didn't want an only child. Got preggers with Aubrey fairly shortly after I quit BF'ing. Financially we were strained, and I had to get back to work full time. I've been working nights and weekends for so long now to avoid daycare, that I can't wait til the kids are old enough to stay home alone so I can find a normal 9-5 job. Having another child would mean needing a bigger house (which we cannot afford), and prolonging my bizarre work schedule. It was mostly a decision based on financial reasons, but I am not a pleasant person to be around when I'm stressed about money
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August 31st, 2011, 10:52 PM
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Dh told me before we got married that he wanted only one child. He has some health issues stemming from an accident. Plus a few other private reasons.
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September 6th, 2011, 08:33 PM
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It is more of a spiritual good feeling for us. We knew once we were done having children, we would know. I wanted to be done after 4 but I knew in my heart we were meant to have 1 more. Now she is here, we are totally happy and content with our decision to be done!

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September 19th, 2011, 10:17 AM
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We always said we wanted 4 or 5, then I had my 4th, she was a preemie, told the world I was done having babies, I didn't want to got through that again. But then I changed my mind and we had our 5th. We knew she would be our last, but I found it really hard being pregnant and having 4 others to look after, then her delivery was awfull, I felt crummy for weeks after, she was colicky. I am glad to have her, but have no desire to ever go through that again.
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