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January 5th, 2012, 06:05 PM
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I figure scine I am new I d get to know those that are here why are you done
I am done because I am pretty sure two is all I can handle and having more comes with some health risks that dh and I don't want to risk me going through another pregnancy. I am also ready to move on past the babies phase of life

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January 6th, 2012, 08:28 PM
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For me I couldn't mentally or physically handle any more children. Both DH and I have medical conditions that make us exhausted (and that completely destroys any patience I might possibly have). I can barely handle the three we have.

I totally have no desire for a baby. I'm enjoying being able to sleep in on Saturdays (the older ones take care of the youngest while we sleep), not have to worry about diapers or potty-training, and not have to bring a million things with me when I go anywhere with the kids.

So I'm just done. We both are.

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January 6th, 2012, 10:20 PM
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That si so great I can't wait to get to that point I still have two in diapers, both in cribs and have been either pregnant or nursing for over three years

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January 8th, 2012, 02:07 PM
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At this point, I feel like our family is complete.
mommy to Isla (11), Roma (9.5), Ruby (7.5), Harper (5), Liam (3.5), Norah (2), Noah & Max (1)

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January 10th, 2012, 11:39 PM
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For us it is financial reasons! My husband got laid off last year and we just don't have the money and enough room in our house.
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January 11th, 2012, 03:37 PM
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That is part of it for us too more kids means new bigger car bigger house ect.

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January 11th, 2012, 07:58 PM
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Stress of pregnancy mostly. No why I could mentally go through another 40+ weeks.

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January 17th, 2012, 05:10 PM
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We can't afford to have another baby. Between prenatal care, cost of delivery, time off of work, then daycare costs...there's just no way. I also either sold or gave away all of our baby stuff years ago, so we would be COMPLETELY starting from scratch.
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January 28th, 2012, 04:09 AM
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Our family is just complete. Its just a feeling, when you know you know.

Our lives are already crazy, we are stretched beyond where we thought we could be.... physically, emotionally, mentally... its hard having 4 little ones!!

Plus of the last 6.5 years I have only truly owned my body for 11 months between pregnancy and breastfeeding.. if you count ttc then only 7 months has my body been mine! Thats crazy!!

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February 25th, 2012, 07:50 PM
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Up until a few weeks ago I still wanted another one, but I have realized that those were selfish reasons. My DH doesn't want anymore and having another baby would be a huge burden on us right now financially. I'm 39 and DH is 42, so not spring chickens anymore. I just realized that I'm too tired after working full time and then dealing with my 4 kids. I can't wait for the baby to be more independend. I want to be able to go out without the kids and to travel and actually have some money to spend on the kids I already have. I don't even know if I could get pregnant again, since we had a really hard time last time around and had 3 losses. I couldn't go through that again. I'm done with diapers and sleepless nights and constant crying and whinning (which is by no means going away for another few years).
I'm also a little scared that the baby could have health problems, because of my advanced age.
But if I could turn back time or win the lottery, I would so love to have another boy.

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March 11th, 2012, 05:34 PM
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because i knew there was no way i could handle any more. emotionally,mentally, physically, and financially
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March 12th, 2012, 03:34 AM
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As many have said, it's not just one factor. we have 2, and feel that that is the most we can comfortably raise, in terms of money, time, space, and attention.
Better to raise 2 well, than 4 and struggle ( although some can manage big families really well) in our case anyway.
All that aside, we feel that with a boy and a girl our family is complete...( and I'm getting too old to go through all THAT again!)
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March 15th, 2012, 07:52 AM
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I couldn't mentally or physically handle any more children.

Pregnancy is very hard on my body and mental health, and I just turned 30 (had my first child at 21) I really don't want to go through a pregnancy and short nights and no freedom again. I just started to enjoy life OUTSIDE my home.

My girls are awesome, I have my little boy, it's enough.

Mom to Maèva (11), Nadjat (9) and Klaus (5)

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April 15th, 2012, 06:05 PM
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We are happy and content with the 3 we have. Plus for all of the mental, physical and financial reasons. And I had a lot of PTL problems with my last.

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