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January 14th, 2006, 11:57 PM
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So on December 19th I took a home pregnancy test and it said positive. We were totally excited but we had to wait until January 1st to go to the doctor because that is when hubby's insurance kicked in. I was all excited and wanted to retest so I took another test the next day - it said negative. I took 11 more tests and they all said negative. I figured I would act as if I were pregnant just in case and then just go to the doc on the 1st. So on Christmas eve I noticed that I was starting to spot - all the books said that this was normal so I didn't worry much. Then three days later I started to bleed very heavily - this lasted for about 8-9 days. After it all ended I just figured I had a false positive test and didn't think much of it. Then on the 5th of January I got all woozy and almost passed out. Hubby made me go to the emergency room. They took a blood test and did an ultrasound and something extremely unplesant called a transvaginal ultrasound probe. It turns out, I had a miscarriage. I was really wrecked. I can honestly say I've never been so upset in all of my life. I cried for like six days straight. I didn't get much sleep - only about 15 hours between Thursday and Monday. On Monday I had to go for a follow up to an OB-GYN. She looked at the pictures from my ultrasound and couldn't find any reminents of the pregnancy. She did a pelvic and said that my cervix was closed - which means the miscarriage was completed. The next thing to do was to draw my blood every two days to be certain that the level of human growth hormone in my blood went completely away. When I was at the emergency room the level was at 50. They drew my blood on Monday and when the Dr. called me on Tuesday said she was shocked to see the level was going up instead of going down. On Monday my level was at 79. In a normal pregnancy the hormone is supposed to double in your system every 48-72 hours. Mine should have quadrupled since Thursday so the doctor said something might be wrong. At this point I had started spotting again. The doctor was worried I might have an ectopic pregnancy - where the zygote implants in the fallopian tubes instead of the uterus. In ectopic pregnancies the hormone does not double properly - it only goes up like 20 or so units. The doctor ordered another blood draw on Tuesday - less than 24 hours after the previous one, only about 15 hours later. The results came back at 107 - not quite doubled in less than one day. The doctor said it was promising but I still had to be monitored closely - you could actually die from an ectopic pregnancy if not properly taken care of. I went on bed rest for Wednesday and Thursday. Thursday morning I went for another blood test. The hormone almost but not quite doubled - it went up to 177. The doctor told me that I was now considered to have a normal pregnancy but we still had to be guarded until the level reached 2000 - at that time the baby would finally be big enough to spot on an ultrasound. I went for a blood draw again today but I won't know the results until Monday - when I have to go for another blood draw. I have never prayed so much in my entire life. I'm still pretty scared but for some reason I think everything is ok. I don't feel bad and I have started to get some pregnancy symptoms like morning sickness (all day long of course) and uterine stretching pains. The spotting has finally started to let up - it is very faint now. I pretty much bled from Christmas Eve until Friday the 13th. Hubby has been acting very weird - especially since he found out you could die from an ectopic pregnancy. Its still upsetting. He does not want to feel like he is going to be a father until he can see the baby on the ultrasound. I've been getting excited but he keeps knocking me down. This is just a very hard time right now and very confusing. I wish my hormones would double exactly like it states in the textbooks but the dr. said that it comes close enough to be in the normal range. The doctor still does not know what really happened. That might be the hardest thing, that we have no real answers. She said it could have been one of three things 1. That I have an ectopic pregnancy 2. That I have a normal pregnancy which has some abnormal symptoms 3. That I had twins and one of them died. I have been thinking about this a long time and I have come up with a third explaination that I think fits better - I just have not had the chance to throw it at my doctor. I think I DID have a complete miscarriage and that I got pregnant right away afterward. We were not really trying but it is the only logical explaination I can come up with. If it was a set of twins, the hormone should have been MUCH higher and the baby big enough to see on ultrasound by now. If it were ectopic then I should be in pain and the hormone would not rise so quickly. If it were normal, my hormones would be much higher and the baby bigger. I'm scared and I don't know what to think. Has anything like this happened to anyone? Is it because I'm so fat? The doctor does not say anything - I suppose she doesn't know anything yet. I'm really scared. -Monica
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January 15th, 2006, 07:03 AM
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I have never been through anything like that before, but can only imagine the emotional roller coaster you are on. I don't think your weight has anything to do with it, but only your dr could tell you that. I will keep you in my prayers and hope that everything turns out for you.

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January 16th, 2006, 12:12 PM
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I am really sorry that you are having to deal with all of this. I hope that everything works out for you and that you get some peace of mind soon. I really doubt that your weight has anything to do with it...you say you are so fat, I doubt that you are as big as you think.

Keep praying and everything will be ok.


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January 16th, 2006, 01:48 PM
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My friend bled bright red blood for her entire first trimester, and is set to deliver in a week or so. There are no guarantees about anything with the bleeding. I don't personally have any experience like yours. Good luck!
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January 17th, 2006, 12:05 PM
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first of all.....please dont be so hard on your self. I dont know what you are going throough but I will tell you I am considerably over weight and I went on to have a healthy beautifl baby girl. So I dont think that it has anything to do with your weight. Hopefully everything will be ok with your bean and you will also go on to have a health baby.

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January 17th, 2006, 09:37 PM
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My good friend went through something similar. She took at hpt and it was positive and a few days later she began to bleed and she ended up going to the doctor and they told her that she miscarried. She then found out about 2 weeks later that she was pregnant again . . . She ended up delivering three weeks early, but healthy baby girl. They couldn't tell her if she never in fact miscarried or if she got pregnant right away. Just hang in there and don't be hard on yourself!!

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January 17th, 2006, 09:57 PM
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wow....i hope everything gets better for you and let us now......



thank u GraysMama

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January 17th, 2006, 10:14 PM
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Wow! That is really scary. I hope everything turns out to be fine. Alot of women miscarry for various reasons and usually they get pregnant again so don't worry. Even if you didn't misscarry your pregnancy might just be doing some interesting stuff. People think they know everthing about it, but really medicine doesn't know 1/2 of the human body.
Keep your head up and please update us.

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January 19th, 2006, 10:44 AM
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I've had an eptopic pregnancy and although you can die it is rare that someone who is under medical scrutiny like you have posted would get that far along that the tube would burst. My levels were finally high enough to register with the hpt on a Wed on Friday I went to the doctors and told them I was having pain and was told that if I hadn't known I was pregnant they never would have thought I was and that I should go home and wait for the test results. On Sunday I was in enough pain that the ladies from the church drove me home and I went to the ER. My tube had ruptured. I lived and since have had a healthy baby boy.

I'm telling you this so that you might see that an eptopic A) does not mean you will die B ) does not mean you can't have other children and most importantly for you C) in my opinion does not really sound like what your going through. I had obvious pain for more then a month before I even discovered that I was pregnant.

On the flip side I didn't even know I was pregnant with my first until I was through my first trimester because I kept having "periods" that seemed normal to me and with my second child I had bleeding through the first month almost non stop.

BTW after the eptopic found out that almost 90% of women that have a miscarriage/eptopic will conceive again within a year and my son was conceived about 9 months after.
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January 19th, 2006, 12:28 PM
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Here is an update. I went to a new doctor. The first one was WAY out of line. I told her that I couldn't take being so worried all the time and she told me that I should just have a D and C and start over! I found another doctor right away. My hormone levels are not going up right, not doubling. They did an ultra sound and two trans vaginal ultrasounds and they couldn't find anything at all. Today I have to take methratrexate and have a medical abortion. I wish I were dead. I am quitting my church and I am NEVER going to pray again. So much for being a devout catholic, I have to have an abortion for Gods sake. We are NEVER supposed to do that. I hate God so much now.
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January 20th, 2006, 12:51 AM
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Do not give up on God. He has not given up on you. I understand that you are suffering right now. I can't say that I could even image your pain, physically and emotionally. But I know that the Lord is still with you....even through this tragedy. He loves you. Nobody knows why horrible things happen. But we do know that God allows some things to happen, whether we understand or not. You have obviously tried everything you can, medically. And while its not fair you have to have the abortion, it must be medically necessary. From what your first post said, you had a miscarriage. That too was not your fault. Please don't loose your faith over this....embrace it and use it in this time of need. Go to communion, go talk to your priest...let him know whats going on. I will continue to pray for you.
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January 20th, 2006, 09:22 AM
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Hi Monica,
First off I want to say how very sorry I am about everything that is happening to you. Second I want to say its deja vu for me. I went thru very much the same things. I have PCOS and b/c of that I don't get regular periods. My husband and I have been trying to have a baby for a little over a year now.
Let me tell you my story and I think I can help you thru your crisis.
In October I had an episode of severe cramping with 1-2 days of heavy bleeding and then about 2 weeks of spotting. Later that month I had a doctor's appt and she regularly checks my HCG levels since we can't rely on missing periods to know I am pregnant. At that appt my levels were btwn 5-10, she said she thought maybe I was in early pregnancy but since she wasn't an OB, she had me wait a week before testing again. At the next check my levels went up to 15. HALLELUJAH I was finally pregnant!!!! I didn't want to listen to all the other posters on here that told me my levels weren't high enough, I didn't want to hear anything but congrats. Well a week later my levels dropped to 14. I thought okay, not a huge drop, maybe my body is just really weird. My doctor believed the cramping I had in early Oct had been ovulation so I must be pregnant. We even told everyone I was due in July, I started filling out baby registry's, etc. My doctor told me to go see an OB, so I went. This lady was an absolute nightmare. She walks into the room, looks at my levels and says your not pregnant and they shouldn't have told you that. THis isn't viable. She suggested a D&C, and the first thought that ran through my head was "you want me to abort my baby"!!!
So I waited another week and went to another doctor b/c my levels were now down to 12, then they went down to 7. He told me I probably had miscarried in early Oct and that was that, he gave me some meds to induce my period and a prescription for Clomid, told me to start in late Jan and try to get pregnant again.
It wasn't until I found another website and had my questions answered by a fertility specialist that I began to understand what had happened. I was beginning to think I made it all up and I was crazy, and yes it tested my faith alot b/c why would God let this happen when we wanted a baby so bad.
I had a chemical pregnancy. Your levels go up just like a regular pregnancy only they don't get so high as a normal pregnancy and they go down a lot faster. What happens is the egg is fertilized, but there is something wrong with it and it doesn't implant into the uterus, the bleeding I had in Oct was actually the miscarriage.
As for the D&C, it is a way for them to clean out the leftover tissue so that you can get pregnant with a healthy pregnancy. There are quite a few ladies on the pregnancy loss board that have had them, and one lady had to go in twice b/c they didn't get all the tissue. I encourage you to talk to them and ask questions. You are not aborting your baby b/c your baby is already in heaven looking over you. I understand your anger with God, that is part of the natural grieving process. I was angry at first too, but the more I prayed and the more I yelled at him the more I understood that he did this to show me that we will have a baby someday soon but we needed to get some other issues resolved in our home before he will bless us.

I hope telling you my story has helped in some way and if you ever need to talk feel free to pm me, I am online most of the time except not very often on weekends. I am here for you if you need someone to talk to. I also encourage you to check out the pregnancy loss board if you haven't yet. There are some very awesome women over there and they are all very supportive.
I am praying for you!
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