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December 26th, 2008, 05:36 AM
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I just want to thank the person who brought this to my attention,because I am one of those people who has pictures of my baby EATING in my siggy.As it says in my siggy,if you are offended by BFing,you are staring to hard.You are free to block out peoples siggies and you are free not to sit and stare,but the BFing pictures in peoples siggies arent breaking any rules and they certainly arent offensive or erotic.
I made sure these pictures were allowed before I made my siggy,so I know that Im not going against any JM rules..the pictures are tasteful and totally fine.They arent porn or even remotely erotic,and weather you can see my areola or not,my breasts are simply doing what they are designed to do,which is feed my child..I am NOT sitting there totally naked.

I find it VERY VERY VERY agrivating and enfuriating to hear someone say how offensive a BFing picture is just because you can see a darker patch of skin (which is all the areola is!).If someones BFing picture offends you,then skip past it,you are free not to sit and stare.You certainly ARE free to not to look,just block out peoples siggies.
Also,you are TTC right? What on earth are you doing picking out BFing siggies? Those women are NOT on this board,they are in DDCs or PRs,are you going out of your way to actually LOOK at these siggies you are so offended by and want to avoid??? Well now Im just confused

I am NOT exposing my body,and I take great offense in those of you that are saying that thats what I am doing! The picture is not of my breasts (which you can barely even see),the picture is of my DAUGHTER.The fact that you have chosen to stare at my breasts and the tiny peice of areola rather than seeing the real meaning of the picture is not anyones elses problem but your own.Its you who sees it as something sexual,but thats certainly NOT what it is.

A womans breasts are a babys source of FOOD.The areola is darker so that the baby can SEE where to go to eat...try to stop imagining what else they are used for and take a moment to understand what they really are.
Its such a pitty that things like this are still happening in a world where you cant turn on the TV without seeing some blonde bimbos boobs waving about all over the place and people think thats fine!

So you find these (and other womens) BFing pictures offensive and rude? (Im sorry but I find that so sad) Block out the siggies,it can be done from your profile,but please stop insisting that those of us that are proud of what we are doing,and can actually see BFing for what it is (a BEAUTIFUL natural,once in a lifetime experience),please stop trying to make us feel that what we are doing when we BF is offensive,rude,sexual and that we shouldent be seen.
We are FEEDING our babies,we are sharing a very special loving moment whilst we do so and people like me happen to find it beautiful to see.We do NOT have to cover ourselfs up with a blanket,we do NOT have to sit in a corner facing a wall,and we do NOT have to adapt to those who see it as sexual.
Its very hipocritical to say you think its beautiful and then practiucally call us tramps for "exposing" ourselfs.YOU take offense?? Can you imagine how you make BFing moms feel??

Being as we arent breaking any rules (as I said,I made SURE this was allowed before I even made my siggy) you are totally free to skip past or block out siggies like mine.

Thank you SO much for my new siggy Julia (Julka)!

December 26th, 2008, 06:57 AM
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I am a bf'g mom and am taken aback by some of these replies. Feeding in public is not a feminist movement act nor is it a 'its my right' statement. It is about feeding a hungry baby on demand just as you feed with a bottle.

I try to take a bottle of expressed milk when I'm out but after that I have to nurse her. Breastmilk is a supply and demand system and for each feed missed our bodies respond by producing less milk which means less food for baby and we have to spend loads of time nusing building it back up. Not easy when you have a young family to take care of. We cant just run out to the store and buy breast milk.

Also, I do cover up but let me tell you, its not easy, especially with a wiggler on your hands.

Breastfeeding was the norm before my time and very few options if you couldnt. Then some man invents formula and it is shoved down the mothers throat that it is just as good but more convenient. Pretty soon we had a domino effect that nearly put breastfeeding out to pasture, very sad. Mow we are seeing a huge movement in the comeback of bf'g and the public cant handle it. We should be able to feed our babies wherever and whenever, our breasts are made for this, not sex. Dont get me wrong, I love when my dh plays but right now they are my daughter's food.

I find it sad when moms are made to feel too uncomfortable to bf their babies. I'm not against formula either as some moms just cant bf. I nursed my last baby with no problems but my new baby's feeding has been full of problems but nothing that we cant work through.

I feel that moms in the states do not get proper maternity leave as we do in the UK. I got 6 weeks when I lived there and was only paid because I paid for disability coverage. Here in the UK statutory maternity leave is for 52 weeks. You may be entitled to receive Statutory Maternity Pay for up to 39 weeks of the leave. It is not full pay but this is paid by our government. I often wonder if more moms would bf if they had more time to be with their babies.

The government here also has laws that formula companies arent allowed to say that formula is just as good as bf'g, but the companies of course are finding ways to beat that law so now the government is looking to ban all advertizing of formula to stop confusing moms. Formula doesnt provide complete nutrition nor does it provide any antibodies. It can also prevent ovarian and breast cancer for us and we burn up to 500 calories a day just making milk.

I know this reply was a bit off topic but some replies brought these issues up and needed to reply to them. Sorry if I sound a bit devensive.

As for the siggies, I think they are beautiful, look at that baby looking up at her mommy, I see a moment caught on film that holds your heart. One moment in time.

Breastfeeding is such a short time in our children's lives and this is where our hearts are. My first child is 14 and was formula fed and is quite healthy but had I known that bf'g was better, I would have done so.

I hope that even if you chose to use formula that you think differently about seeing a mom breastfeeding and let it be.
December 26th, 2008, 08:03 AM
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Ladies, ladies....deep breath. We all have our own opinions about this topic obviously. Let's let it rest now, please.

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