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January 26th, 2012, 08:41 PM
Join Date: Jan 2012
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Hi ladies,

I have never posted here though I have read a lot of other posts. I finally decided it's time I really join the community because it's hard for anyone else to really understand.

I don't know exactly how to word this because I don't want to be insensitive. I know that many of you have been TTC way longer than me, but I'm hoping that's part of the reason your support can help. We started trying sixth months ago. We toook two months off because it was bad Timing so we have really only been TTC for 4 of those 6 months. I know that's not long compared to a lot of you, but its already so emotionally difficult for me, especially this last month. I was spotting a few days before my period was due and I thought for sure it was implantation bleeding but I started my period several days later.

I think part of what makes it so hard is hat I had this idea that it was going to happen so easily and quickly because that's how it was for all of my family and friends. To top it off, my SIL keeps badgering me about having a baby (she recently had her daughter and doesn't know that we're actively TTC). She even said she might beat me to her second before I have my first. She doesn't know that these comments are insensitive but sometimes they're unbearable!

Anyway, I'm excited to be part of this community to give and get support from all you wonderful ladies!
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January 26th, 2012, 08:52 PM
Belita's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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These women here are truly amazing! I've found so much support here and I hope you find the same!

Have you tried charting your BBT (basal body temperature) or OPKs (ovulation predictor kit) at all? If no, those can help. If so, please post a link so we can chart stalk you!

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January 26th, 2012, 09:18 PM
IndyMommyWannabe's Avatar Always Hoping & Praying
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!!! and...!

And - honestly, here, that's not insensitive at all. This is a "safe place" for all of us trying to conceive...I've been trying for...well March will be 2 years and we just got the absolute news that our ONLY option is going to be IVF (in-vitro fertilization). We are dealing with Male Factor Infertility and I also have one blocked tube.

But there's some very incredible women here who've been trying for a year or MORE than me.

And there's many awesome ladies who've only JUST begun.

It doesn't matter how long you've been trying...be it 2 months, 2 years or 3 or more years...it sucks when all you want is a baby to hold.

I HATE all the comments "so when you gonna make me a..." (insert family member here, great-aunt, great-uncle, etc...) but I have to remember they don't KNOW that we are actively trying and they also don't know that we are dealing with infertility (nor do they need to know). But as much as I hate those comments I constantly have to remind myself that they just don't know.

example - i posted a few days ago about a friend of a friend who kept complaining about being "miserable" with her pregnancy. part of me wanted to smack her and say "be thankful you are!!!!!" but I smiled and nodded and joined the conversation because she had no idea...

BUT anyways - sorry to threadjack..lol - seriously though - you have come to an AWESOME board. The women here are absolutely incredible and, again, whether it's been 4 months or 4 years, we all have the same emotions.
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TTC since March 2010 (too darn long) - 4 years, 2 months and counting... / Severe MFI / Stage 1 Endometriosis

IVF=ONLY option

October 2012 = Fresh IVF #1 - retrieved 8, 6 fertilized. Transfer 2. Fail.March 2013 = Frozen #1 - Transfer 2 of 4 left. Fail.
February 2014 = Frozen #2 - Transfer remaining 2 - IMPLANTATION!
8 weeks, D&C - blighted ovum - Triploidy

July 2014 = Fresh IVF #2!

"Sometimes the bad things that happen in our lives put us directly on the path to the best things that will ever happen to us!"

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January 26th, 2012, 09:51 PM
Mega Super Mommy
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Welcome! We have a great variety of ladies here with a range of experiences. Your feelings are completely valid and I hope you find the support here helpful!
Jenny (34) & Scott (40)
TTC #1 since 1/11, Unexplained Infertility
M/C 2/12
Polyp Removal 11/12
4 failed IUIs

IVF #1
Started stims 9/27/13
ER 10/8/13 - 24 eggs, 15 fertilized!
Blast transfer 10/13/13, 4 snowbabies
Very faint 10/18/13 (5dp5dt)

Beta #1 10/23 - 339!!!
Beta #2 10/25 - 856!!!
U/S 11/14 - Heart rate 144!

Abigail arrived 6/28/14!

FET #1
Blast transfer 2/16/17
Very faint 2/21/17 (5dp5dt)
Beta #1 2/27 - 329!!!
Beta #2 3/1 - 995!!!
U/S 3/20 - Heart rate 157!

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January 27th, 2012, 04:56 AM
martinchic's Avatar TTC # 1
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Originally Posted by IndyMommyWannabe View Post
It doesn't matter how long you've been trying...be it 2 months, 2 years or 3 or more years...it sucks when all you want is a baby to hold.
This is soooo true! This is our 6th cycle TTC, and I'm just emotionally exhausted! I move between hope, joy, despair, and grief several times each cycle, and right now I'm at my lowest.

But you know what? This board is full of people who understand exactly what you're going through, and have tons of helpful advice. You can vent when you want, cry when you want, and when you finally get that BFP, these ladies will be truly happy for you!

I hope that your despair will soon turn to joy!

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January 27th, 2012, 07:18 AM
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Hello, and welcome to the forum, Jane. This is a wonderful and supportive group of women who can share so much expertise with you. Please don't be shy in posting, and ask as many questions as you like.

Robyn (Belita) suggested OPKs and charting. I highly recommend doing that. Without charting, I never would have discovered my relatively minor fertility issue of luteal phase defect. So charting will help you know if you're ovulating and when you're ovulating, so you can time BD appropriately.

Good luck TTC. I hope you get your BFP very soon!
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January 27th, 2012, 09:05 AM
kbpeanut's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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I'm Karin, DH is Patrick, and we're past the 3 year mark of TTC. But Keri-Ann said it best...it doesn't matter if you've been trying for just a short time, or for a long time like us, it doesn't make it any easier. This is a great group, and having been on this roller-coaster for 3+ years, I don't know what I would do without these ladies!

I hope your stay is short and sweet, but in the meantime, we're glad to have you!

Thanks *Kiliki* for my amazingly perfect siggy!


Our TTC Journey | Pregnancy Journals: Nugget (or here) and Baxter (or here)
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January 27th, 2012, 05:52 PM
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Thank you everyone for the warm welcome and sincere support! I feel like part of the community already! (although I DO hope it's a short stay!)

In response to your questions, no I haven't started charting yet, but I think I'll start this month. It's one of those things where I'm almost scared of what I might find out once I start looking too closely. . . though I know it's best to find out if there's something wrong so we can fix it. Hopefully, though, our baby is just waiting for the right timing!

Indy, I totally know what you mean with the comments, and I DO try to remind myself that they don't know what's going on. Sometimes I just want to tell some of those people so that they'll stop, but it's really personal for us so we're keeping our adventure private. I told a few close friends the first month we tried, and even that first time was hard to tell them that it was a negative, so I realized that I'm not going to be able to do that every time!

Anyway, thank you all so much for the warm welcome!
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January 27th, 2012, 06:14 PM
dansyl's Avatar Missing my angel baby!
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I'm Kara, one of the hosts on this board. I would definitely start charting if you have been trying for a few months and have not gotten pg, just because it could be something as simple as wrong timing! Good luck and I hope your stay here is short and sweet!

Thank you jaidynsmum for my beautiful siggy
My Ovulation Chart
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January 27th, 2012, 09:38 PM
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Location: Green Bay, WI
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Hi and Welcome. I'm Dawn and the ladies have given you great advice! We all understand where you are coming from and run into the same situation. We are all here to support you and listen to you when you have questions, need to rant, or just chat. I hope your stay is short and sweet!

Forever missing my angel 2010

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