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September 20th, 2012, 01:24 PM
plan4fate's Avatar I may bend, but not break
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planning for future cycles rather than expecting a bfp out of the current one?

I've been noticing that I do this. Even more since the miscarriage in July, it's like deep down I don't expect us to get pregnant the routes we're taking, instead I seem to find myself using "after the next chemical" or "when it's a bfn" and researching things we can try.

Last night I got a pretty dark opk, rather than coming out and ordering DH into the bedroom, I sat down and started researching Fertile CM and Fertilaid because I didn't have a huge abundance of CM. It's like I don't even plan for current cycles, I'm always onto the next one!

Am I the only one who does this?
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September 20th, 2012, 02:37 PM
Beth2008's Avatar mommy in the making
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No, I'm always planning ahead on my cycles as well. I try not to get my hopes up. I had one cycle where I was symptom checking and convinced myself I was pregnant, negative test.

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September 20th, 2012, 03:18 PM
Wizza's Avatar TTC our first since 2009
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I start preparing myself for the BFN right after I ovulate usually. It's just easier to expect that it isn't going to work and not get my hopes up too much. Someday I hope to be wrong but so far AF always shows.

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September 20th, 2012, 06:16 PM
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I do this, too. I noticed that, because I used SO MANY OPKs this cycle trying to figure out when I was O'ing, I only have 5 OPKs left for next cycle. So I have already ordered more, preparing for the next cycle. I have also already decided that this cycle and next cycle I will chart/temp, but then the next one will be NTNP. After that, I think we'll give up the getting PG thing altogether. So yes, I have most certainly thought ahead to other cycles, expecting the current one not to be a BFP.


Me: 41, DH: 44 (He has a 15-year-old from a previous marriage)
I'm a Type 1 diabetic (28 years and counting), and I've had gastric bypass (Dec, 2013 - currently at goal weight)

Started with an RE on 7/23/2014 and so far:

SA came back with 44 million, 27.3% alive
Fibroids present, endometriosis suspected, had surgery in Dec 2014 to correct
HSG normal - both tubes open

Cycle 1: August, 2014 - Natural, failed

Cycle 2: September, 2014 - Chemical Pregnancy

Cycle 3: October, 2014 - Failed IUI

Cycle 4: November, 2014 - Failed IUI

Cycle 5: December, 2014 - Missed due to surgery

Cycle 6: January, 2015 - Failed IUI

Cycle 7: February, 2015 - Failed IUI

Cycle 8: March, 2015 - Natural cycle, failed

Cycle 9 - IVF #1: April, 2015 - 13 eggs retrieved, 8 fertilized, 4 transferred (3-day), 4 frosties. Chemical pregnancy.

Cycle 10: Natural cycle in preparation for FET in June, 2015.
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September 20th, 2012, 06:33 PM
Nicholle ttc's Avatar TTC our first!
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Yep, I do it too! I have my ob/gyn appt scheduled for the end of this cycle so that I can discuss our next steps (stay on clomid?, IUI?). I'm only cd 7.
TTCing since August 2011
Me (33)-LP on the short side, but no other abnormalities
DH (37)-slightly subfertile morphology and motility

Natural cycles-August 2011-July 2012
August 2012-October 2012 clomid and progesterone
November 2012-IUI
December 2012, cysts from IUI, on bcp

January 2013-February 2013, long protocol IVF
15 eggs retrieved, 11 mature, 7 fertilized with ICSI
All 7 made it to 5 day transfer, 2 were transferred
Only 1 frozen snowbaby
1st IVF

May 10, 2013, lap sx, Stage 1 endo

June 2013 - MA Round 2
Femara + hcg shot
IUI # 2

FET tentatively scheduled for 10/31/13

Have never seen a bfp.

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September 20th, 2012, 07:03 PM
Kiam's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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Yeah, I only had one pregnancy when TTC naturally and that ended very quickly (3 weeks) so I kind of put my all my hope in IVF, so I honestly didn't expect anything while TC naturally.

Now that I am doing IVF, I am thinking "Oh I hope I have embryos to freeze for FET after this cycle" I just can't get my head around the idea of anything working right now.
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September 20th, 2012, 07:48 PM
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Yea, I find myself planning for the next cycle mostly because ovulation is disrupted. My husband thinks im crazy and wants to just enjoy the present but It's hard when you are so convinced you will never see a BFP.
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September 21st, 2012, 01:54 PM
ArmyWife28's Avatar Praying for a Miracle
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I'm right there with you, I don't get my hopes up at all. Last month was the first time TTC after my IUD removal on 22nd AUG. I'm supposed to ovulate next week, so we will see.
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September 22nd, 2012, 02:11 AM
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I am pretty convinced I will never see a BFP. At the most I will be on Clomid 5 cycles after this, and if I'm having this much trouble ovulating with MA I don't see me doing it on my own. Heck, I may not O again on the Clomid. I ovulated in February and didn't again until last cycle so that O could be a one time thing too. We don't have the money or insurance to try anything else, and I'm 90% we won't until after I get a hysterectomy. Basically what I'm saying is I don't just think about future cycles, I think about what's going to happen once we aren't even TTC anymore.

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September 22nd, 2012, 05:58 AM
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*waves hand in air* I'm totally guilty of this. Even now wedding planning for nxt year thinking ill probably not have a baby or be pg by then so don't need to consider it

I guess we just don't like getting our hopes up and having to deal with disappointment worst than it already is

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