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September 24th, 2012, 08:43 AM
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I know I shouldn’t be complaining, but I still feel the need to. My DF and I just started TTC last cycle. AF has not come yet and I got a BFN on CD 30. AF does come every moth, but my cycles are anywhere from 26 to31 days. Today is CD 32.

I have been charting my CM (EW on CD18) I think that I got a + OPK on CD19 or 20. I have not used BBT, but plan on it next cycle. I have been checking my CM and cervix 2X daily since I O’d, and it has been wet, firm and low and every day. However, this morning, my cervix was soft and low. I have had minor cramps every day since CD28. I only get those two days before AF comes. I have never had minor cramps for four days.

When would I get an accurate PT? If I did O, it would have been around CD20 or 21, today is CD 32. My DF and I have been together for 10 years and never used any protection. We just figured that it would have happened by now, naturally.

I know so many people that have been together for a few months and were able to conceive. Nothing is more sad and frustrating when I log onto Facebook, and I see that one of my friends is expecting. It is so hard to be happy for them. I then get mad at myself for having those feelings. It is so strange, for the past six months, the first day that AF arrives, there is at least one person on Facebook that is pregnant. I log on this morning and found out one of my friends became a father. No AF though. Do any of you ladies experience this too? How do I go about being happy for someone that is able to get pregnant? Rant over. Thanks for reading
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September 24th, 2012, 09:26 AM
Nicholle ttc's Avatar TTC our first!
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Oh sweetie, I know how you feel. We've been trying for 14 cycles and nothing. It always sucks when you see an oopsy on facebook, especially if they don't even want children. Hang in there sweetie! It will happen for all of us, hopefully sooner rather than later! Great idea using the BBT, that will definitely pinpoint O! Good luck and KUP!
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Me (33)-LP on the short side, but no other abnormalities
DH (37)-slightly subfertile morphology and motility

Natural cycles-August 2011-July 2012
August 2012-October 2012 clomid and progesterone
November 2012-IUI
December 2012, cysts from IUI, on bcp

January 2013-February 2013, long protocol IVF
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All 7 made it to 5 day transfer, 2 were transferred
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September 24th, 2012, 10:18 AM
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If you are only 11DPO it could still be too early. The average day for getting your first BFP is 13.5DPO. It's different for everyone though and some people don't get their first BFP till like 17DPO or something.

I feel you when it comes to the friends. I've had two give birth within the last two weeks and another one's baby shower is this weekend. We have been trying for almost 11 months so I feel like I should be with them, you know? Or at least have my BFP by now. It's been very hard to be happy for them without also feeling sorry for myself.
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September 24th, 2012, 01:45 PM
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Tasha, if you are CD11 it could still be early for a positive HPT, id give it a couple more days

And yeah...fb can be a nightmare at times, I am very grateful for the 'hide this post' button quite frequently..

we've all been there so know how your feeling

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September 24th, 2012, 01:54 PM
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I didn't see a line the cycle of my chemical until 12dpo, when AF was officially late (I Only have an 11 day LP) and it was so faint! I'd say you still have a few days!!

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