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February 12th, 2013, 11:21 AM
butterfly721's Avatar Mommy-to-be to a baby boy
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Recently, I've been thinking about advertising for babysitting jobs. I'm not sure if I should, though. I'm worried it will make it harder on me if it takes us a long time to conceive.

On the other hand, I do really need and want some more experience taking care of babies and young children. And I wouldn't mind some more spending money for salon treatments.

I already talked about this a bit with Caitlin. I'm wondering what you guys all think of this?
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February 12th, 2013, 11:22 AM
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I already told you but I think it could be a good idea for the experience. Then if down the road it is too hard then you could stop doing it.

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February 12th, 2013, 11:30 AM
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to Caitlin Of course, you know what is best for you, so rely on what your gut is telling you to do. GL and KUP!
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February 12th, 2013, 11:39 AM
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Thanks, Caitlin and Nicholle.

I am going to think about it some more before I try to find any babysitting jobs. I know DH will be all for it because he would like me to find a part time job for extra cash. But I know he will agree that if it is truly too hard for me, I shouldn't do it.
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February 12th, 2013, 12:08 PM
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I agree with the other ladies as well!!!

I help a good friend with her twins from time to time and I love it and I have learned so much from her and just being with her 2 little girls - they are now 7 months old. There was a time where it got too hard for me these past few weeks and I avoided it for a bit. But I spent some time with them again recently and found it comforting. This particular friend spent 2 years trying to have a child and went through IVF and now has these beautiful girls. It inspires me most days when I am in a good place. and helps to give me faith that it will happen for all of us eventually.

So like the other ladies said - I would go for it - but if it becomes to difficult take a little break and then reevaluate.
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February 12th, 2013, 12:28 PM
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Thank you, Elle! Your friend sounds like an amazing person. I'm so glad that she was blessed with her twins.
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February 12th, 2013, 01:26 PM
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I agree, i think it would be a good idea if thats what you want to do. I think you should be able to take a break if you needed one because it was getting too hard or if you needed some space though.

I too feel like I could do with some practice but DF's neices and nephews, albeit they are older, provide enough challenge!

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February 12th, 2013, 02:09 PM
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I say go for it. even as hard as ttc an be and as jealous as I get of women with babies.. I love it when a mom plops her baby in my arms so she can try a shirt on her 2 year old at work... nothing like getting paid for baby snuggles!
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February 12th, 2013, 08:34 PM
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babysitting rocks!!!!
I see where you're coming from when you say it might be hard, but I would take the experience points first over that! I got attached to a little boy I babysat, and he ended up being better behaved for me than with his own mother!

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February 13th, 2013, 08:09 AM
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I have been babysitting for ten years now. Beyond a doubt it is my favorite job ever. Yes, I want a baby, but these kids are totally different to me than I think I would feel about my own child. I would take a bullet for the kids I babysit without having to think about it. But it's very clear to me that they aren't my children. I'm just this amazing person who gets to experience what its like to share a part in their days.

I highly recommend babysitting. It pays well and its the most wonderful job ever. During good days you get to go outside, go to parks, go to playdates, go to the pool. You get to snuggle down for naps or watch a child prance through their imaginary play land. It's so inspiring! You get to see the world through the eyes of a child again.

Besides being with these kids I think it's been valuable to me because I've seen so many different parenting styles. I've seen Baby Wise families where Mom fully regulated foods and nap times. I've been to families where they throw the baby at me, run out the door, and I have to be creative to come up with meals from a depleted pantry/fridge. I've interacted with sensitive kids, stubborn kids, rowdy kids, and lots of others. The experience has prepared me by showing me that each kid is different, even among siblings.

All of that whole essay to say: YES! Check out care.com. I find it easier to work with several families a week instead of FT for just one.

Let me know what you decide and if you have questions feel free to PM me
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February 13th, 2013, 03:35 PM
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Thank you, Sam! I'm sure I will have lots of questions.
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