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April 3rd, 2013, 02:19 PM
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So when I was discussing with DH when to get my IUD removed, he had something to the extent of, "Well that doesn't mean we'll start trying right away right?" and I said, yeah, I wanted to see what my bodies does for a cycle or two.

I ordered OPKs yesterday to start charting after removal on Tuesday. I told him about it and he goes, "Well you're taking the fun out of it!" He goes on to tell me that he thought we'd just "pull and pray" and leave it in God's hands.

I was pleasantly surprised. I thought we were leaning more towards TTC in June, but I guess we'll be NTNP, or somewhere in between? These distinctions confuse me.

Although he did add, "I suppose you'll use the 'kits' anyway, huh? You're such a planner, I'm more spontaneous." Well DUH! You didnt' realize that yet? ha.
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April 3rd, 2013, 02:30 PM
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Yeah my husband was confused at first. But I'm like you, I'm a planner. I wanted to know right away what was going on with my body.

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April 3rd, 2013, 02:44 PM
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A good compromise might be to just temp rather than use the OPKs for right now - less "invasive" and all temping can do is tell you when you have already O'd, which is nice for figuring things out, but is less pressured? Totally up to you
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April 3rd, 2013, 02:56 PM
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I have really liked temping, charting everything, and getting to know what is going on with my body so it makes perfect sense to me I think Jess has a good idea! While we are waiting to TTC I am just temping and saving my OPKs for when we can start trying again - whatever works best for you just go for it

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April 3rd, 2013, 05:18 PM
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we did the Ntnp thing for 3 months... meaning he didn't try and wasn't using protection... and I opk'd and charted the hell out of things
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April 3rd, 2013, 06:31 PM
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I'm still getting to know my body's cycle, and I've just been mostly winging it. I've dabbled in OPKs and temping, but haven't done them with any regularity.

DH said it's up to me whether I want to try to just let it happen or whether I want to try to plan it.

For the meantime, I am flying by the seat of my pants because I rather like the suspense. I only went off the BCP in late January, though. I'm sure in a couple of months, I will feel differently.
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April 4th, 2013, 12:05 AM
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Just my two cents, do with it what you will: DH and I spent the first year NTNP thinking we would get pregnant sooner rather than later. (Prior to that, we were using the so called rhythm method as birth control, and prior to THAT I was on various hormonal BC for 8 years) If I had been temping and using OPKs the whole time, I would have probably known a lot sooner that my LP was on the short side, and that I was actually ovulating 6 days later than we had assumed. In other words, we spent a full year on the rhythm method of "birth control" and in reality were were likely BDing on my most fertile days. Now I'm just like... wow 2 years... what do I do with this information? I feel like I wasted good time and feel slightly desperate at times. I am sorry if I am being a downer, not trying to scare you, just sharing my experience.

My point is, right now you don't know what you don't know. It might be more fun to just try to be spontaneous and go with NTNP, but I mean you've had an IUD, you have been able to practice BDing, no strings attached for a while, so you've been having fun this whole time right? Anyhow, in the end it's up to you. I like what Ashley said. He doesn't have to try, but you can if you want. Hehe. It might take a month or two for your cycles to return to normal, maybe you want to wait til your first AF visit before getting serious with the OPKs and stuff.

I wish I had done some research up front. I would have started charting and OPKs after 4 months of NTNP, assuming a 20% chance of getting pregnant each cycle is what everything I read has said.

I hope you get your BFP soon, good luck with the IUD removal!
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April 4th, 2013, 09:25 AM
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@Boolajoojoo I totally get where you are coming from. And that's what I said to him: I want to know what my body is doing. If nothing else, I want to know for sure that I'm ovulating and that my cycles are starting to regulate again.

Our plan was to let my body "do it's thing" for two cycles anyway, to get it back to normal post-IUD.

I think DH is thinking of it in a black-or-white way: Either we're full-on TTC or we're just having fun and not thinking about it. Which I understand the latter, he wants to have fun with it, live and let live. So maybe I just need to be clearer about why I'm doing it (to make sure my body is doing what it's "supposed" to be doing)

What surprised me is when I said, "Well part of the reason why I got the tests is so I know when I'm ovulating so we can avoid BDing then" and he said, "I don't want to avoid it!"
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April 4th, 2013, 10:29 AM
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DH & I are kind of at the same spot -- we both want to know what my body is doing, but at the same time, we can't feel pressured to BD on a strict schedule.

So, I guess my recommendation is to make TTC be what you want it to be! It doesn't have to be full on everything -- just do what feels right! And when you BD, make sure you keep it fun!
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